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  • May 5, 2012, 01:24 PM
    smartblondy
    My ex boyfriend dislikes me
    Me and my ex boyfriend snogged at ten and now he technically hates me he always swears at me but when he's single and it's just me and him he says he fancies me and he'd go out with me but never asks me out why ? :confused:
    P.S I'm 11 so is he
  • May 5, 2012, 01:26 PM
    Curlyben
    Isn't childhood fun ;)

    It doesn't get any easier, but don't dwell on it and move on with your life, you have many more adventures ahead of you..

    Don't jump into "dating" at such a young age as it's generally meaningless anyway.
  • May 5, 2012, 01:50 PM
    smartblondy
    Thanks but I can't get over him is that normal

    How do I get my ex boyfriend back but he's already going out with another girl?

    How ?
  • May 5, 2012, 01:53 PM
    Curlyben
    Perfectly normal, and you'll have worse to come..
  • May 5, 2012, 02:02 PM
    JudyKayTee
    You don't. You can't make anyone do anything, and that includes love you.
  • May 5, 2012, 02:03 PM
    LadySam
    You do nothing, he has moved on, as you should.
  • May 5, 2012, 02:03 PM
    JudyKayTee
    By the way, the OP is 11.
  • May 5, 2012, 02:07 PM
    LadySam
    I just saw that myself.
    At 11, boys should be the last thing on your mind.
  • May 5, 2012, 02:07 PM
    JudyKayTee
    In this case reading the AMHD rules should be a priority.
  • May 5, 2012, 02:56 PM
    smartblondy
    But at one point he dumped her then started flirting with me non stop for 3 days then on Monday his ex asked him out and he said yes
  • May 5, 2012, 03:08 PM
    LadySam
    Blondy,
    Again, you are 11, don't be in too big of a hurry to grow up. Concentrate on your schoolwork and your family.
    No need to be worried about a boy, there is plenty of time for that when you are older.
    If my 11 year old daughter were breaking up, getting back together and "snogging"
    Not only would I be disappointed and hurt, but also scared for her.
    This is not behavior suited to a young lady.
    Don't try to grow up and miss out on the carefree times you should be spending as a child.
    Do your parents know about these things?
  • May 5, 2012, 03:13 PM
    smartblondy
    No they all hate the boy so I dare and my dad is really protective but I don't know why I did it I'm disappointed in myself too
  • May 5, 2012, 03:21 PM
    LadySam
    Your Dad is protective because he loves you and wants to protect you. He doesn't want bad things to happen to you.
    And he surely doesn't want you to bring those things down on yourself.
    If you keep it up, not only will you have a bad reputation with all of your friends, and boys will expect you to act a certain way. I don't think that is something that you want is it?
    My mother used to tell me that the only thing we have that cannot be taken away from us was our good name and our reputation.
  • May 5, 2012, 03:23 PM
    kdola
    The sad thing is you can't control that it sucks know how you feel try to move on
  • May 5, 2012, 03:27 PM
    smartblondy
    Me and him tell everyone it failed so they shut up I wish it never happened though:(:(:(
  • May 5, 2012, 03:32 PM
    LadySam
    So you can't do anything about what has already happened right?
    What you can control is what happens in the future.

    And your friends are snickering and talking about it, isn't that embarrassing?
  • May 5, 2012, 03:46 PM
    smartblondy
    Snickering well I don't know what that means but it is embarrassing when they talk about it yes that is true
  • May 5, 2012, 07:53 PM
    LadySam
    Snickering - Definition and More from the Free Merriam-Webster Dictionary

    So you will think about your actions from here on?
    I hope so. I know peer pressure is tough to deal with, it hasn't been that long since my kids were young.
    And all I ever wanted for them was to enjoy being a child for the short time that they had to be a child. To be safe and happy and learn lessons well.
    Not just school lessons, but life lessons about honesty, integrity, respect for others and themselves.
    It doesn't mean they didn't make mistakes, but they learned from them and are better young adults for it.
    You still have a few years to enjoy childhood, it will be soon enough that you have to deal with grown-up problems, don't rush it.
  • May 6, 2012, 06:13 AM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by smartblondy View Post
    No they all hate the boy so I dare and my dad is really protective but I don't know why I did it I'm disappointed in myself too


    A person who is regretful doesn't brag about her actions - which you have done on other threads.

    Quite bluntly (and apparently your parents have explained any of this to you) today you are "the (11 year old) girl who snoogles (since she was 10)" (or whatever it's called) and so people date you. Tomorrow you're "the girl who has sex" and so people date you.

    I'd change my behavior.

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