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  • May 5, 2012, 10:38 AM
    cheekiegirl34
    I've been dumped! What do I text back?
    Never posted on here before, but I have just been dumped by TEXT!!

    The message read... "Hi babe Just thought I would let you know I am calling it a day on us I just dont have time in my life for a relationship sorry babe take care xx"

    After 6 months together, and the day he decided to send it, the night before he sent me.. " Hi babes be over after work just after 7 will bring wine", what!!

    I am absolutely gutted, and just feel so humiliated, and in the next breath, I feel like I need to speak to him.

    Did ring, just rung, no answer. Done this twice today, received nothing, as I was in shock!! Sent a text, "I just can't believe you have done this by text! I actually thought you thought more of me, and truly believed we was going good, and happy?".

    No reply! He lives literally 1 mile and a half away. Just feel like going round ringing. Just don't know what to do. Anyone got any good ideas or what they think of this? I have tried to analyse the text non stop. Nothing! Made no contact yesterday or today and just managed to eat, and online, as one of my friends suggested, bottle of wine and a flirt on some chat sites. So vino and webcam lol, hard laughing now, but hopefully won't be on stalk mode later!!

    I just want him to know how he's made me feel, and I'm still at that stage. I just want to speak with him, see him, but just don't know what the hell to say or do :(:(:(
  • May 5, 2012, 10:47 AM
    Wondergirl
    Don't say or do anything to him. If anything, write it all down, but DO NOT send it to him. Put it aside and read it once a day for a week, then burn it or shred it.

    Have nothing more to do with him. That will be your "revenge," your closure. He's a coward. You don't need a coward in your life.
  • May 5, 2012, 10:50 AM
    cheekiegirl34
    Thanks sweets Will Try That Just Gutted Gutted... Just can't believe he has done this I have rang but went straight to voicemail just couldn't help myself what the hell though thought let you know grr and the hi babe sorry babe so upset... xxx
  • May 5, 2012, 11:05 AM
    Wondergirl
    Now, stop with the contact. You are well rid of him. Time to heal and move forward. We are here for you. Have fun with us on this site. :D
  • May 5, 2012, 11:09 AM
    cheekiegirl34
    Thanks sweets ;):) xx will add to my favs as I appreciate your advice someone that doesn't know us and just telling me what I want and need too hear and go and see if I can offer any advice x
  • May 5, 2012, 11:12 AM
    Wondergirl
    You are the exact, perfect voice that some others here need to get an answer from. This site is a hotel for broken hearts. You have the good sense to help not only yourself through this but can also help others through their pain. I'm counting on you! Xxx
  • May 5, 2012, 12:09 PM
    cheekiegirl34
    Thanks so Much :):) xx
  • May 5, 2012, 01:40 PM
    joypulv
    Gather dump stories from everyone you know.
    My ex, who left me, tried too hard on his next adventures with women.
    One woman dumped him by putting the engagement ring back in his mail slot.
    Another one left him in the middle of a 2 week trip together.
    LOL
    (I never wanted a ring, but we never went anywhere, and THAT I did want.)
  • Jul 8, 2012, 04:32 AM
    Hattie24
    Just forget about him. Talk to friends if u feel really bad but otherwise just move on. If he loves u and wants you back he will ask u out again or tell u. If that doesn't happen he doesn't care therefore there is no point in getting upset over him.
  • Jul 8, 2012, 11:47 AM
    jacqueline-d
    I don't blame you for feeling the way you do, what this guy did was totally out of order, no one deserves to be dumped by text! You need to find ways to distract yourself from this situation, go out with friends, spend time with your family :) Just remember that you deserve so much better :)
  • Jul 9, 2012, 06:03 AM
    semiramis78
    Oh come on its been only 6 months, and its nothing... leave it behind and look forward to new opportunities :)
  • Jul 9, 2012, 07:30 AM
    Tallyman29
    Dumps are never fun, was dumped in a restaurant after being together for 6 months. I'll give her credit though for not doing via text and to my face... text dumps are the lowest of the low.
  • Jul 9, 2012, 09:41 AM
    mearbhall
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by semiramis78 View Post
    oh come on its been only 6 months, and its nothing...

    So at what point does she have the right to be upset, by your reckoning?!

    That's a disgusting, cowardly thing to do to somebody. Tell your all your friends about this and I hope the word gets out about what a horrible person he is. I mean, really, you've had a lucky escape if he thinks that that's an OK way to behave.
  • Jul 9, 2012, 10:27 AM
    mmresd
    You don't do anything, except go no contact, keep yourself busy, and move on. Why does it matter if he knows that or not, he obviously doesn't care. Why is the reason why he did it important, all you need to do is accept it and respect his decision, it is better for you to know how much he really "values" you now than later when you are even more committed.
  • Jul 9, 2012, 10:50 AM
    Jimmy78
    Don't text back and don't say anything
  • Jul 9, 2012, 01:34 PM
    Huggybearza
    What an , honestly just don't bother thinking one second about that person.

    I've just gone through a wierd/terrible breakup and I'm pissed off about it but don't let him know you weak, no contact and continue with life best way possible.

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