I'm feeling really helpless right now, I just broke up with my manic depressive boyfriend tonight. I really love him, but the relationship was hurting me too much to stay. He took it horribly, as expected, and I tried to stay strong but I ended up breaking down the whole time (It had to be over the phone because we've been long distance for a while).

I feel broken and he keeps texting me saying "please stay with me, I'll change" and he begged me on the phone not to do this to him." He asked me if I thought he was the one, and I didn't know what to say because honestly... he was. But being with a bipolar boyfriend is like not knowing half your boyfriend. I left him at his worst- someone I love and care for dearly.

I need advice, I need support... I need help dealing with this... I have no one else to talk to about this.

Almost all of us who leave someone in great distress feel guilty and worried about what they might do, whether they are bipolar or not, whether they say what is going to happen to them or not. You have to keep telling yourself over and over that his life is not your responsibility. He is not your child or your little brother, he is an ex boyfriend, and he has to get over it himself. You won't do him any favors by hanging on out of guilt or concern.

If you want to set up an intermediary, some mutual friend, to keep tabs on him by email or Facebook, do so, but I wouldn't recommend it, or you may find yourself slipping back.

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Originally Posted by LoveAndOtherDru

I'm feeling really helpless right now, I just broke up with my manic depressive boyfriend tonight. I really love him, but the relationship was hurting me too much to stay. He took it horribly, as expected, and I tried to stay strong but I ended up breaking down the whole time (It had to be over the phone because we've been long distance for a while). I feel broken and he keeps texting me saying "please stay with me, ill change" and he begged me on the phone not to do this to him." He asked me if I thought he was the one, and I didn't know what to say because honestly... he was. But being with a bipolar boyfriend is like not knowing half your boyfriend. I left him at his worst- someone I love and care for dearly. I need advice, I need support... I need help dealing with this... I have no one else to talk to about this.

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Girl I'm in the exact situation as you but thing is in a few minutes time I'm going to get what is mine & that's him I suggest you do the same.Yuo can never win in life unless and until you fight for it and please do not live a life of wondering what if okay.All the best

You did the right thing for yourself, and now have to go through those terrible feelings that comes after a break up. Best done by having no contact with him while he gets over the shock, and can deal with the pain in his own way.

People don't always realize the pain is as great if not more for the dumper, as it is for the one who gets dumped. Stay strong for yourself, and him, so he can heal as will you, in time. For now its all misery, and pain for you both, so make sure he cannot contact you, or follow you on the social networks or emails.

Know that any contact, well intentioned, and concerned though it may be, on your part, will keep his misery fresh, and unbearable, and delay his healing, and give him false hopes of you changing your mind.