I'm 17 , and just recently my parents somehow found out that I had had sex with my boyfriend who is also 17, and we have been dating for 1 1/2 now . Anyway they now don't trust me anymore and won't let me go anywhere without my sister as a tag a long ! And I can't even walk in my back yard without my mom asking me what I'm doing and where I'm going! What can I do to possibly to earn their trust back?

I'm 17 , and just recently my parents somehow found out that I had had sex with my boyfriend who is also 17, and we have been dating for 1 1/2 now . Anyway they now don't trust me anymore and won't let me go anywhere without my sister as a tag a long ! And I can't even walk in my back yard without my mom asking me what I'm doing and where I'm going! What can I do to possibly to earn their trust back?

Not going to happen very fast. The issue here is you say ( somehow they found out) which means that you were doing something very serious with changes that could effect your entire future. So they were scared, disappointed and sad all at the same time. So don't expect it to come back for a long time.

How do I gain it back? What can I do to for them to semi-trust me again?

I'm scared because I really don't want to disappoint my parents I love them so much I want to show them that I was wrong and that I'm sorry and prove to them that I will never do it again but I feel like they are dissapionted in me too much already ! Is there a way to prove that I care and want to turn my life around ?

Have you asked them?

My parents would just tell me I'll have to figure it out because if they tell me then I wouldn't be learning anything

You haven't tried?

Its not that they don't trust you. It's that they are really really really scared for your future. Sex isn't a plaything with no consequences. They are just trying to protect you from a horrid future if something were to go wrong.

The only way I see to win back their trust is to be extremely open with them. Start sharing your life with them, how your day was, and such stuff. Be and show that you are a responsible girl.

It will be tough and will take time. But gaining their trust back will be worth the effort.

My parents recently found a pregnancy box I hid(stupid idea not to throw it away) and yeah at first they were PISSED well not really the pregnancy box but the fact that I lied to them about having sex. I'm 15 my boyfriend is 17 my mom was 17 when she gave birth to my older brother who's 19now. Its been day3now since they screamed at me and all that happened and you know what my parents are back to being very nice and normal again. They did at first say me and Scott are done. But after a few hours of us calming down I told them exactly what I felt what I need. I said I NEED to hear him and talk to him and see him. I need to have some contact some relation with him. They understand exactly what I feel about him. Now were talking about a 15and 17year old whose been in and out of the mental hospitals. But they finally understand what we've felt. Why we were there. They listen now. You need to talk to your parents maybe just your mom alone in her room and you know shell tell you dad at night what you guys talked about and exactly how you feel and from her telling him hell understand. It'd be a lot better. It will take some time. Okay. But. Everything will turn out fine. I promise. :) >email address removed<