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  • May 1, 2012, 06:59 PM
    xImakeAstandx
    My girlfriend slept with another guy when she was drunk. What must I do?
    Hi.. I'm cutting this short my girlfriend and I have been together for 2 years and over the weekend she went out with her cousins and one of her cousins friends and. My girlfriend got drunk and slept with the guy... she was still a virgin so you could imagine what I'm going through I don't know what to do... she says she was drunk but I think its just an excuse.. so please help me I don't know what to do :'(
  • May 1, 2012, 07:01 PM
    none12345
    What you should do is dump her.
  • May 1, 2012, 07:05 PM
    odinn7
    I never go for the drunk excuse... to me, it's simply bs, This is even worse for the fact that she was a virgin... so being drunk just made her forget all about you and that she was a virgin... I don't believe it.

    So now it's up to you where to go from here. If it was me, I'd dump her. You may wish to talk it out... we can't decide that for you.
  • May 1, 2012, 07:08 PM
    xImakeAstandx
    Thank you... plus she broke a promise I'm only 16 and she is 15 I asked her to promise she won't drink and plus she got drunk anyway and even made out with him and she says she remebers somestuff what happened... I don't know what to do I've never had this feeling before

    Its also extremely hard because I have so much feeling for her and I love her I don't know what to do she hurt me so much that a part of me wants revenge
  • May 1, 2012, 07:43 PM
    odinn7
    Trust me guy... I've been there before. Believe me when I tell you that you may be hurting now, and wonder how you can live without her but... someone else will come along and you will forget all about her.
  • May 1, 2012, 11:43 PM
    Bernty
    I've had the same problem. Its your choice but to me cheating istnt something you can forgive no matter what the circumstances are I tried to work it out with mine cause I really liked her but she did it again with the same guy so what I would do is either don't talk to her or get her to listen to the song (lying is the most fun a girl can have without taking her clothes off) - panic at the disco
  • May 2, 2012, 02:19 AM
    joypulv
    Love hurts, love stinks, love kills. Yet we just keep on lovin'.
    You ask what 'must' you do? There is no must. You will do whatever you do, and it's going to hurt, whether you dump her while speaking your mind, give her the cold shoulder, take her back and try to forgive her, convince yourself that virginity is just a state of mind and you can take the high road, or go out and find a virgin who wants to have sex with you. (That last one is just a fantasy! Don't actually do it, because you are underage.)

    I wrote a little song once that starts
    The tritest sayings are oftenest true
    I'm in love with a memory that never was you.

    You are now in love with a memory. She isn't who you thought she was. You can't get that girl back because she doesn't exist. You can get this one back if you wish and she wishes, but you will have to accept the changes. That's always true, it's just usually not so dramatic and obvious.
  • May 2, 2012, 10:44 AM
    mmresd
    She cheated, it is time to break up with her.
  • May 2, 2012, 03:49 PM
    talaniman
    What do you expect from a lying, cheating, drunk teen ager? More lying, more cheating, and a lot more drinking.

    Bet her being a virgin was a lie too!
  • May 2, 2012, 04:37 PM
    DoulaLC
    Do you think you could ever forgive her? Could you ever trust her again? If not, if you think that it would always be in the back of your mind, then you really don't have much choice.

    People handle these things differently, and it can depend on how long you have been with the other person, how much you have invested in the relationship, etc. Some people do find that they can rebuild the trust, but it takes a good deal of time and commitment from both people. You will have to decide if this is what you want to do and work towards.

    You both are young, odds are very good that your relationship won't be long term and that you will have a few serious relationships as you get older.

    Consider it a learning experience. You now know what you won't put up with from someone you are in a relationship with.

    If you decide to end things, do not seek revenge. Don't lower yourself to the same level. Be smarter than that and simply let her know that what she did has caused you to no longer be able to trust her, and that a relationship needs to have trust to be healthy. Then wish her well, and give yourself time to let your heart heal so that you can move on.

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