Hey,

Okay I need someone’s help on this matter, I don’t know what to do. It’s about this guy I work with. I been working here for almost 3 years and seems the day I start working he been flirting with me, and I use to flirt back but on the day before Thanksgiving on 2011.

We were taking the bus home together and from nowhere he kissed me and I kissed him back and seems then we been fooling around like kissing and making out in the movie theaters because we don’t get to hang out as much as regular people because he have a 7 year old son and also he lives with his mom (they are practically married not legally) so I feel guilty about this situation, and plus I feel like he gives me attention that I need, and plus I kind a love him.

And few days back finally we had sex and it was my first time and it means a lot to me but nothing for him so every time I think he is mine he is not, I’m a hopeless romantic person and I believe in fairytales and I always hoped my life will be one of those.

But the only thing I get from this relationship is hurt. It’s just that I love him and the main time it’s like he makes out with me and then he goes home and sleeps with his wife and it kills me (I’m an Indian 23 year old girl and if my parents get to know this they are going to kill me),

So please help me with this situation tell me what to do

It's like drugs, you can't just cut down, you have to cut him out of your life completely.
The pain will be worse at first but won't last as long as it will if you continue.
You work together, so TELL him that for your sake he has to stay away. If he is selfish and just doesn't care about you enough to stop having his cake and his cupcake too, then it's time to start resenting his real lack of concern for you.

End this, or keep suffering, and being used.

The longer you allow him to do what HE wants without respecting what YOU want, the more pain you will be in. Either you tell him to stop messing around, or you leave.