I have been married three years and things are getting worse! He been drinking an taking pain pills! He calls me a whore non stop.
He tells me what vehicle I have to drive. The other day he called me a uptight snobby ***** because I would not drink a beer while I was driving and had my children with me!
Later that evening we had no kids he took a walk he was still mad from earlier he started push, and shoving me an while I am saying stop pushing me he would laugh the entire time!
He says to me that I cry if the wind blows the wrong way! I started to bartend he making me tan, get my nails done and my hair also! He told me I better take off my wedding band! Which I refuse to do that. Then he make commebts how I get slapped by customers on my butt and I say those things are not tolerated! He says Whatever to me!
I am to the point that I have tried and trie to make this work but he does not respect me, and I want my kids to grow up in a healthier environment!

Well my advice to you is just leave him and take the kids and get a better life. You shouldn't have to put up with that. That's what my mother did she left him because things didn't go well with her and my dad. Kind of similer to your story. So she took me and my sisters and left him half my life ago and ever since then things have been better for us. I recommend you do the same.

Yes that is abuse! No man or no one has the right to treat you hat especially your husband! Its very wrong and may get worse. As time goes by. Its better to get out while you still can it would be hard but it will be healthy for you and your children... once it starts it'll never stop.even if he sorry over and over again

I might not be old enough to give an advice bt if you want your kida to live in a good and healthier environment
Then you need to keel them awah from all this and leave your husband.. else you might face problems in future or your kids might start disrespecting u

From what you posted, not only abusive but controlling also.
From pushing and shoving to hitting may only be a matter of time.
He has no self-control, so perhaps controlling you is the next best thing.
His behavior will certainly affect your children, they may see it as normal to disrespect you and others.
And who's to say that he won't turn his attention to the children and do the same things to them when they begin to think and act for themselves.
You have some choices to make and he needs help with his addictions.