Hey..
I'm 12, this guy I'm falling, unconditionally and irrovacobly, in love with...
But he's 16. And I don know if he feels the same way
And don tell me that its just a crush, I don know what love is, etc. cause I do. And I never felt this way about anyone except for him. I'm just wondering if any of you guys think a four year age difference is too much?
I just want to know what you all think
Not that I'm going to change my thinking, but I am wondering.
Yea..

AT 12 of course you feel that way, your hormones are raging. And in 6 to 8 years a 4 year age gap is not much, but at 12, 4 years is a life time in maturity ( but I know you are mature for your age all 12 year olds think so)

But you can not date him with out your parents permission.

Do you know that a boy who is 14 years or older can get in a lot of trouble with a 12 year old girl, even if he is a minor too? If you love him so much you will stay away from him until you are at least 16 years old and better still until you are 18 years old. However, when you are 16 he will be 20 years old and an adult. He could go to prison for messing around with a 16 year old sexually and most likely he will want too. He will be 22 years old when you are 18 and you will be considered an adult legally. Wait and then see how you feel when your emotions have matured. At the present time enjoy platonic friendships with different boys your age... no heavy petting, no sex and no stirring of emotions. You do not want an accidentally or deliberate action resulting in a pregnancy. You can control your actions and your love emotions. Keep it on a friendship level until you are older. Actually, loving someone isn't always beautiful with sweet emotions and sweet thoughts. You should be socializing with boys and girls in a chaperoned group setting, like with a church group or youth organization. Also, I doubt your parents will approve you being with a 16 year old, therefore sneaking around will only get you and him into trouble you won't want or need. Enjoy friendships and respect your emotions, but keep them as special as your virginity. At your young age emotions can be hurt and you are not mature enough to deal with emotional hurt. You could end up going from boy to boy having your emotions hurt over and over which might hinder you from having a healthy love relationship later as an adult.

First at 12 you are too young to even be thinking in terms of dating. You are too young to truly know what love is. I'm not trying to minimize what you think you feel, but you will fell it many times over the next several years.

And yes at your aqes 4 yrs is too big a gap. If you were 20 and 24 no it wouldn't be. But at 12 and 16 you are at different stages of your lives.

Also, it would be a rare 16 y old who would have any serious romantic interest in a 12 yr old child.

Not only is 4 years at 12 and 16 a huge gap, but I have to say that even though you think you know what love is, you really don't. I know you feel like you're in love. I remember all too well when I felt like my heart would break because I cared so much about a guy when I was younger. It wasn't love, it was just a crush. When you're older you'll understand, and because you're not older it's unlikely that you'll listen to the people that have been there and done that, because you're 12 and you really think you know everything, even though you have no idea.

Bottom line, it doesn't matter what we think, but the law does matter, and it matters a great deal. If you date him without your parents permission he could go to jail. If you date him even with your parents permission and you two have any sexual contact (that can include kissing), he could go to jail.

You're jail bait, so, if he's a smart 16 year old, he'll stay the hell away from you.

Sorry, but you wanted opinions. We all gave you opinions and facts.

You have plenty of time to fall in love, and I'd bet you millions that you'll fall in love many times in the next few years, until the real thing comes along, and then you'll see the difference between what you're feeling now, and what you'll feel then.

There's no rush, so don't be in such a hurry to grow up. Childhood goes by way too fast. Enjoy being a kid.

If this 16 year old is interested in you there is something wrong. At his age it is way wrong, and at 12, you have no clue. It's a crush.