He never is in the mood. Our relationship is only 2 months old. He also has diabeties & low testosterone levels of around 347. He has a moody & sensitive personality. Every time I bring up the sex talk he gets upset. We did try once at first it worked then but didn't last & went down. I'm in my mid 30's. Otherwise he is very good to me & my child. He buys us lots of things, puts gas in my car weekly & has just started paying some of my bills. Being a single mom with full custody of my child & only working part time, I'm greatly appreciative of his kindness. So I guess the sex will work itself out in time right?

No, I doubt it. Work itself out? He can't get an erection for medical reasons. Ask for holding and caressing and find ways to gratify yourself when he can't. He might rather ignore all that because he doesn't want to think about it, so decide where your priorities are.

No, sex will not work itself out,unless you just get used to no sex, get used to masturbation and sex toys perhaps. It sounds like his medical condition makes him have no interest in sex, so don't expect him to change and want it. His medical condition makes it hard for him to preform ( if he can at all) With his health he may or may not be able to take one of the medications like viagra to help with sex, but again, depending on his health, he may not be able to take it, since they do have side effects on blood pressure and other issues.

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Originally Posted by ScCca

He never is in the mood. Our relationship is only 2 months old. He also has diabeties & low testosterone levels of around 347. He has a moody & sensitive personality. Every time I bring up the sex talk he gets upset. We did try once at first it worked then but didn't last & went down. I'm in my mid 30's. Otherwise he is very good to me & my child. He buys us lots of things, puts gas in my car weekly & has just started paying some of my bills. Being a single mom with full custody of my child & only working part time, I'm greatly appreciative of his kindness. So I guess the sex will work itself out in time right?

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No, the sex will not "work itself out" in time. If his "problem" is due to medical conditions (including the aging process) it very well could get worse. Los Testosterone is, of course, a killer and Diabetes - that's one of the many side effects.

How long can you be in a relationship that does not include intercourse but allows you to work part time because he pays some of your bills, puts gas in yor car and "guys you things"?

If this is a deal breaker for you, be kind and tell him. Don't take advantage of his money while criticizing his sexual ability.