Okay so I've been talking to this girl for 3 months through text and call and I haven't met her but we have been pretty serious about establishing a relationship until a week ago when she found out I lied to her about my past and it's not like my past was a candy land filled with adventure. She has only had sex once and I promised her that I only had sex with 3 people but I lied and its been 5. I understand I messed up and we made up and we've been talking and all but she seems distant and she's been using my past against me telling me I'm a dirty person.

But then she turns around sometimes and is totally okay with me. I've been texting her a lot lately and calling her a lot because I don't want to lose her so I've been annoying her. Now she's really angry at me because I told her she needs to do something about guys that have been texting her asking to have sex with her or I'm leaving her because it really bugs me. She says she's not scared to lose me. How should I act? I don't know what to do anymore and I want to find someway to get her more interested in me again.

Well, now in the relationship, she thinks she has all the power now and she can just throw anything you do and use the past as a leverage over you. You have not met this person in real life. Its time to cut your loss and move on and learn from this experience. Don't try to contact her anymore and just live your own life. She says she's not scared of losing you, hence you should not be scared of losing her as well and prove to you and her that you don't need her and its not the end of the world if the two of you don't work out.

none12345 is exactly right. Don't let anyone control your decisions. It sounds like she wants you to beg for her back and I douubt she will take you back knowing that you lied and that you sound desperate especially with other guys talking to her the way they are. Be strong and move on there are woman out there that are nice and account for your feelings not only their own. Good luck be strong

Wow thank you so much you Guys have been really helpful things seem to be working out right now so I'm hoping for the best. I just wish relationships weren't based off whoever holds the most power. All I want is love. And to be loved for the person I am now. Thank you again.

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Originally Posted by Brandon1993

Wow thank you so much you Guys have been really helpful things seem to be working out right now so I'm hoping for the best. I just wish relationships weren't based off of whoever holds the most power. All I want is love. And to be loved for the person I am now. Thank you again.

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I hope things work out but don't get your hopes up. This seems to be an issue that will probably never settle. Soon enough you might find yourself right back here in the same situation only to find people giving you the same answers and regretting that you stuck with the relationship.

Act indifferent and collected. Let her make her moves as she wants to. Lesson learned, don't talk about your sexual past with someone at all especially if you are going into a potential relationship.

Stop acting like a big wuss who is afraid to lose some female he talks to on line, but has never met. Stop acting ashamed of yourself for having had so many women. None of her business any way, and who is she to judge you?

Its never about power, or control, just style and attitude.