It's so crazy but when I was 14 I was head over heels in love with my first love. My mom forbide us to see each other anymore, and so I started dating someone older than us. Not long afterwards I married the older one. We divorced after having children and I moved back closer to where I grew up. After that I married again and then ran into my first love. He is married to someone else and I am too. I see him often as our children go to the same school and we often shop in the same stores. I don't know how he feels, but I'm still in love with him. I love my current husband, but this first love is still there. Should I tell the first love? How should I go about it? He's never said anything to me about the past relationship, but I know there's a spark there.

If he is single at this time, how about asking him to dinner to catch up? If he is married or is in a committed relationship then he is off limits.

The power of that "first love" is strong, isn't it? I'm glad to see you are thinking this through and not rushing into any decisions you might later regret. It sounds like you have a good husband now, and are happy with him. What you have with your current husband is a priceless thing... worth holding on to for dear life! I would encourage you to look for ways to make your marriage stronger... and focus inward instead of outward. There's a book called "His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair Proof Marriage" by Willard Harley... that gives some great pointers for how to strengthen your marriage (even in the face of attraction you feel for sometone else). Also... during my time with Focus on the Family, I found this article online... might help you think through all the decisions you are facing? Anyway... just my 2 cents... for what it's worth!

Do NOT cross the lines of good behavior or betray the trust, and security of your children, or his family. Respect he has a life, and so do you, and let that spark be friendship, and not lead you down a bad path.

We cannot control what feelings we have, but we can damn sure control what we do about them, RIGHT?