My son is back from irac he seemed normal at first but now he is on meds and has left our home.. he came home after a week away with no word he stayed 5 min. and left again he screams at us and cusses us and refuses to take any meds.. his national guard unit won't help.. can we have him committed to get some help and who can help

Hve you talked to the VA? What does his Physician say? You can't just request that someone be committed - there must be a medical need and that varies by State.

First, I would like to thank him for his service!

Now, how long has he been back? It took both of my sons a while to adjust to civilian life after coming back from Iraq.

As far as having him committed, no you can't unless you can prove that he is a danger to himself or others.

I sat on the porch and did not do much of anything for 6 weeks, except hit the floor every time certain noises were heard. Is he still in service or did he get a discharge ?

Well the va will do nothing, he is still in the national guard but does not go to drills anymore he just sits in his room talking to himself and now he is getting hostile toward us and leaves for days at a time... I don't know if meds help or hurt but I don't think the answer is in a bottle... he won't go to ubh or anywhere we suggest.. he just says I'm fine

[QUOTE=guarinod;3095464]well the va will do nothing, he is still in the national guard but does not go to drills anymore he just sits in his room talking to himself and now he is getting hostile toward us and leaves for days at a time... I don't know if meds help or hurt but I don't think the answer is in a bottle... he won't go to ubh or anywhere we suggest.. he just says I'm fine... he just wants to be left alone now he is walking the streets

Go see if you can talk to someone at the guard, they may have a way to help force things more. Unless he is a threat to his self or others it is almost impossible to force him to see a doctor or be committed for treatment

I'd like to suggest that you not bring up taking his meds at all. Chances are that is one reason why he is out the door so fast. Ask him what he needs and wants but don't hover either. Let him know how happy you are that he's back.
What he might need is one of the new programs for PTSD (if that's what he has) that combine blood pressure medicine with group therapy. The medicine is given just as the flashbacks start. There is no evidence that psych drugs work, except in conjunction with lots of therapy, and not even then a lot of the time.
But I take it you don't know if buddies were killed, if he thinks he brought about a buddy's death, if he was exposed to chemicals, or if suffered a lot of fear and trauma in general.
See if you can find a counselor at his unit or the VA who would come out and talk to you, and to him next time he's around.
Don't pressure him about any of this though. That's just my unprofessional opinion.

As a 100% disabled Marine with severe PTSD. I suggest that you leave him alone. Do not force him to change because he has changed. He will never be the same. He views the world differently now and just about everything he believed in has been altered. The more you push him the more he will feel crazy and out of control. There is nothing wrong with him. He is in a primal mode to survive this new environment he finds himself in. Drinking never did me any good after the first 5 beers. I drink to feel and vent and some times cry. The VA does not care because PTSD is a very expensive bill to pay a veteran for the rest of their life. If he will go to a PTSD meeting it will help him but he has to be the one to make that call. When he finds a purpose to live and does not confuse it with THE PURPOSE or HIS PURPOSE in life, help him find JUST A PURPOSE, a job, a volunteer job, something that helps him help others and helps him care about his actions and the harm that his actions can do to others.. Just help him love and care.