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  • Apr 24, 2012, 03:59 AM
    Campdraftqueen
    Boy friends bestie
    I have a boyfriend and he has a best friend that is always hitting me and hurting me. I have asked him to stop but then he doesn't listen. It gets that bad that I don't want to hang out with my Bf anymore. Is that my fault, or is it just him trying to move me away for my boyfriend.
  • Apr 24, 2012, 04:04 AM
    Curlyben
    Teen boys are awkward things and aren't any good at communication.
    Bottom line is he fancies you..
  • Apr 24, 2012, 06:29 AM
    Campdraftqueen
    What do u mean by that
  • Apr 24, 2012, 07:00 AM
    Fr_Chuck
    Most likely the best friend likes you and wants to be the boyfriend. Sounds more Jr High level dating. But if he is hitting you hard enough to hurt you, tell him it will be reported, since hurting anyone is never acceptable.
  • Apr 24, 2012, 09:05 PM
    Campdraftqueen
    Bf or best friends
    Me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 4 weeks and that is fine but he was my best friends. How do you know if you did the right thing by saying yes to him when he asked you out. Because I feel bad but I like having him a more than a friend. Should I have said yes or no. HELP Please
  • Apr 24, 2012, 09:22 PM
    Campdraftqueen
    Boys
    Hey if a guy asks for your number and then you give it to him and he doesn't stop texting you does that mean that he likes you??
  • Apr 24, 2012, 09:26 PM
    Campdraftqueen
    How did you know that it was jr high. Ur right I'm in grade 9. But I would never go out with the best friends I have made that mistake once should I tell him that
  • Apr 24, 2012, 09:37 PM
    J_9
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Campdraftqueen View Post
    How did u know that it was jr high. Ur right i'm in grade 9. But i would never go out with the bff i have made that mistake once should i tell him that

    Because that's how jr high boys act when they like a girl.
  • Apr 24, 2012, 10:30 PM
    Curlyben
    Could just be bored.
  • Apr 25, 2012, 03:38 AM
    Campdraftqueen
    BF trouble
    OK I am going out with my best friends and now he doesn't seem to care what I say to him it's like that I don't exist. I'm not sure if that means that he is giong to dump me or what but I do know that my ex best friend which is a girl keeps ringing him and texting him even sexting him and he doesn't sem to mind and I am starting to worry if this means that he is going to dump me for her or if he is doing it to get on her good side. But he has never liked her and he said he never will. I really need help on this one Please
  • Apr 25, 2012, 04:55 PM
    Campdraftqueen
    Boyfriend
    Ok my boyfriend came over yesterday because it was a pupil free day and when he got there I was on my phone and he took my phone off me and then statrted looking through my pics and saw me and my ex at the pool kissing in the photo and now my boyfriend won't talk to me and I don't know if this means he hates me or what. I NEED HELP Please Please Please
  • Apr 25, 2012, 05:26 PM
    DoulaLC
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Campdraftqueen View Post
    Ok my bf came over yesterday because it was a pupil free day and when he got there i was on my phone and he took my phone off me and then statrted looking through my pics and saw me and my ex at the pool kissing in the photo and now my bf wont talk to me and i dont know if this means he hates me or what. I NEED HELP PLZ PLZ PLZ


    You'll have to ask him. He shouldn't have taken your phone and gone through your pics without your permission. However, is there a particular reason why you have a picture of you kissing your ex still on your phone? Perhaps you honestly forgot that it was on there still, or perhaps it is just a reminder of someone you used to be in a relationship with.

    Does your boyfriend have any reason to wonder about your honesty? Odd that he just took your phone off you and started looking through it. Could someone have mentioned to him something about the picture or could he have a reason to wonder about you and your ex?

    Your boyfriend is upset because he may think you still like your ex. If that isn't the case, put his mind at ease. Let him know why the picture was there.

    He will then need to decide whether he believes you, and you will have to decide whether you want to have a boyfriend who goes through your things.

    You'll have to let us know if there is more to this story.
  • Apr 25, 2012, 05:31 PM
    Jake2008
    Maybe he has reason to trust you, maybe he doesn't. But, to me it should be completely off limits for anybody to go through anybody's anything- phone, computer, purse, wallet, belongings, etc.

    If this is out of character for him, and he has apologized and seems honestly sorry for this breech, that is one thing.

    If this is NOT out of character for him to be suspicious, jealous, controlling, domineering, and thinks nothing of invading your privacy for no apparent reason, it is not a good sign of things to come.

    If you have pics on your phone that you don't want anybody to see- him, your mother, your ex boyfriend's friends, etc. then get rid of them.

    I don't know much about cell phones, but if it is possible to protect information on it, with a password, maybe that is a good idea.
  • Apr 26, 2012, 01:28 AM
    Homegirl 50
    Was this a recent picture of you kissing the ex? Regardless, you boyfriend had no right to take your phone and go through the pictures. Does he do this type of thing all the time?
    You'll have to ask him what his feelings are, but I'd say he sounds a bit possessive and this is something you should not put up with
  • Apr 26, 2012, 01:41 AM
    Campdraftqueen
    Thx guy for the help. I showed him my phone againg and then he had alook at the time it was taken and it was last yr and he then appoligised and then is taking me out for dinner to make up for it. I asked him why he took my phone and he just said I just wanted to make sure you weren't cheating on me because he had heard that. I said that I would never do that because I know how much it hurts and he said soz for not trustin you babe I promise that I will never do it again. I SAID THAT IT WAS OK. WAS IT A MISTAKE TO GO OUT WITH HIM IN THE FIRST PLACE BECAUSE HE WAS MY BFF??
  • Apr 26, 2012, 02:23 AM
    Homegirl 50
    Is this the same guy your girl friend is text-ting and who wants to know all about your past boyfriends?
    I think you may need to cool it with him.
  • Apr 26, 2012, 02:49 AM
    Homegirl 50
    He sounds like someone who is just playing the field. He obviously does not care what you think so why is he still your boyfriend? Why have you not dumped him? Is this the same guy who took your phone and went through the pictures?
  • Apr 26, 2012, 07:16 PM
    Campdraftqueen
    Yes it is the guy that went through my phone and yes it is the guy that my ex biffle is texting
  • Apr 27, 2012, 12:23 AM
    Homegirl 50
    You need to leave this guy alone. I'm not understanding why you are still with.
  • Apr 27, 2012, 04:08 AM
    Campdraftqueen
    Because he says that he loves me and I really like him as well and he was my BFF and I don't want to hurt his feeligs and plus I don't dump people

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