I have been with my husband for 6 yrs and we have two children together. Before we had children we would go out and do stuff. Now because we have children we still try to go out maybe every two or three months, but he still goes by himself sometimes with his friends. I try to go with mine, but feel guilty about leaving my children. When I logged in to Facebook one day I had his up because we use the same computer. I saw he had many girl friends on it as well as guys. I read some of the posts to them and they were a little different, but he says that they are friends from high school and I should not be worried. Well he went back to Mexico a couple of weeks ago and will be gone for 8 months. I have a trust issue from some previous relationships and I don't want to believe he is being bad when I am here working and taking care of the children by myself. Am I overreacting or should I push this issue with him? With us being so far away from each other I think it is hard for both of us, but I am having all of the responsibility and he is hanging out for the next 8 months. He says that I should not be whining about it because I did not want my children to go with him. I just am scared of them going that far without me. He tells me that I am starting my old problems about him doing what he wants and not having to worry about a family like I do. What do you think?

I am confused. Why is your husband in Mexico for 8 months, and how do you still have issues because of past relationships after 6 years of marriage? I am not understanding your problem, so please fill in those gaps with some information please.

Yes issues that are over 6 years old but no current issues ?

Why is he going to Mexico for 8 months? Why are you not going with him?

Except for a few friends on face book, what has he done.

Why are you not going out more than once every 2 or 3 months ? Is if because you don't want to leave kids with a sitter ?

I am sorry everything I read sounds like someone who is very insecure and could even be pushing him away

He has to go to see his mother and will be gone for 8 months. He was very good for the first couple of yrs before the children came. Then it was I stay at home and he goes out. Yes, we only go out every couple of months because my son was a very sickly baby and now it worries me to go out and he is 3 and a half. Plus money issues make it hard to go out. I can't go with him because I have to work and support the family. I think one of our main problems is that he is not working now and has not in 2 yrs and this is hard for him.

Seems he should be home with the kids, while you work and support the family. Do you mean he has gone to work in Mexico to support his family? And where does the 8 month time frame come from? What was the understanding between you as to his leaving?

How is your son now, and do you have family where you are?

I had no choice he had to got back to Mexico for now they are talking about close to a year. I have a mom that lives 30 minutes away and she works different hours than me. My son is doing OK, but his asthma attacks come when they want. He could be fine in the morning by the afternoon he sounds like an old car when he breathes.

When I find out he is asking other girls to eat with him and he said that is with the girl's family too.