Seriously confused, and need assistance.
I am so very severely overwhelmed.
I had just been recently left, abandoned, and dumped by some short guy whom , in February 2012, I had met at Bloomindale's (he worked there). The first time we'd met, February 2012, he'd falsely promised("promised") to call.
Only a couple times he came to the house, in Northridge, California, where I did and do(unhappily) reside, alone(by myself and alone, as always) to see about 2 computers that I had bought, we had unsatisfying "sex, " and he left.
On Valentine's Day he never once contacted me, let alone did a single thing for me.
The day after Valentine's, he came over, as uncaring of me as ever, and we had more unsatisfying "sex." Then, later when I woke him up, he too quickly bolted from the house, left and abandoned me, dumped me(with absolutely) no closure or completion.
Recently, in this month of April 2012, via another sleazy computer internet on-line site, I met another man(tall, approximately 43 years old) man by the name of G.
We met at a cafe/market in Canoga Park , California in the evening.
I had really desired for him to arrive with a car and pick me up , but he said he had his motorcycle and so he never did pick me up.
And, as usual, but even more so, as my time runs out to have a child of my own, I was desperate. So,(unhappily), I met him at the café.
When I walked in, I sensed that he was disappointed. He did not so much as stand up as I walked in the café. I had worked very hard on my appearance(everyone has always said that I'm pretty and have a killer body. I don't know. I do know I am petite, though ). And I was very upset that he was disappointed at seeing me. I was offended and hurt.
During the date, he talked a lot and I did laugh for some time. It was nice. I wasn't really attracted, but I hoped he'd ask me out again.
We closed the place down.
But then he seemed to rush me out of there. He never kissed me or invited me to go out again. He lied that he'd "like to see" me in the near future and then, without a kiss, sent and rushed out of there.
That evening he sent a phone text, claiming that he had not wanted the evening to end. But after that, not one day later and not two days later I never ever was contacyed by him ever again.
This dumping and non-contact has always happened to me by men. But I have stillnever gotten used to any of it and am still offended and enraged.
I was so enraged, that, on the second day, I phoned Guy G. and told him exactly that I had known that he had been disappointed by my appearance, the other night, and that it was so very , very mean of him to rush me away and lie that he'd "like to see" me in the near future, when , in reality, he never wanted or desired me and did not want to see ever again. He lied that that wasn't true.
He phone me and texted some invitation. I felt that he did not mean the invitation and only felt obligated. But I was so very desperate and lonely, that I accepted.
That Friday I met him at a Starbucks coffee shop. He claimed he did wish to see me again. We talked and laughed. I gave him and "it" a chance.
I, the most always-hurt person, gave it another chance. I mad myself open to him. I went along with him.
The next day he asked me to drive all the long , hard way to West Los Angeles( he was totally unwilling to drive his car to The San Fernando Valley to pick me up or see me) to meet him at The Grove mall. I did not wish to drive all that way, but I did so anyway, to again compromise.
We did some shopping, had some lunch, talked about our disfunctional "family" problems, et cetera. I really stared to feel attached to him. And he made all sorts of claims such as (supposedly) how much he "liked" me and wished to be with "only" me,and that he, too, wished for a real relationship and to stay with just one person and to have children and a family and all that. And that he'd not text me impersonal texts that I disliked, but would always phone me and be with me.
That day, he tried very , very persistently to get me to his apartment and claimed he wished to intriduce me to his old neighbor, Gloria, and so on. But I told him that I was unwilling to have sex with him unless we got to know each other more and maybe have something real.
Keep in mind that I did not ask him to say these things---he said the all himself.
That evening, via phone, I told him that, in order for sex to happen, I'd wish for a monogamous relationship and for him to first get tested and show me that he had no disease.
The next day, contrary to his promises, he never ever phoned me. He again sent me some impersonal , uncaring text.
I was so very enraged. I hoped and hoped that he would phone me. But he never did so much as phone me.
I mean, after all he had said, especially about hin knowing how I felt about texts, and all, I'd think he'd at least call.
I, very anxiously, waited until the next morning. I phoned him and again angrily told him how upset I was. But he pretended he didn't know the reason. Again, he asked me to see him. I only saw him again because an emergency came up. He actually came(via his motorcycle) to the Valley that evening.Then we started back up again.
Again, I started to become attached to him again. I apologized for past reactions and I thanked him.
But, the next day, he was back to not at all being willing to drive over , with any car, to see me. He said he had work to do . He told me to drive(all the long, hard way), to Hollywood, to his apartment.
I told him I'd drive over(though, inside, I felt unhappy to drive all the hard way again), but would not have sex and wished to wait to see if anything developed. He claimed that he'd "behave."
When I got there, he made me tea, we walked around the roads, we talked, laughed, I thought we had a great time.
But when Iwe got back to his apartment, he was all over me and all he talked about was when we would get to that point and do it. I told I wished to hear him talk to me more about himself and share anything he was willing to.I told him, in a great and positive way, that I wanted to know him and that I was very interested and that I did,'t want to be just any girl. He briefly talked about a past divorce(when I asked if he was over her, he said he most definitely was) and a broken engagement after that(he claimed he was over that, too) and a brief dating stint. But he was not too willing to talk too much about himself. And, to my much further disappointment, he never ever asked me anything and never showed any interest in me or how I felt or any caring at all.
But I was very upbeat that night and laughed and was positive.
The next morning, he never did introduce me to his old neighbor, Gloria. Even when Gloria passed by, he hid me an never introduced me. I was so very hurt. But I did not wish overreact.
Then, he told me not to forget any of my stuff. He let me go to my car. He never asked to see me again. He said, "bye Babe." But he never asked when or if we'd see each other again. I was diappointed.
Yes, this was all so early, in having met each other. But he's the one who had made all those proclamations and claims and declerations. And that is why I had so expectations. I was unfortunately into him, but also left feeling empty at the same time. I was so miserable.
That evening he phoned a couple times. I was out, so did not pick up. But I was so glad he'd phoned. I phoned him back the next morning and I put myself out there and said I was glad he'd phoned. I acted very upbeat and positive. But he only talked about all the things he was going to do, since it was Friday.He never asked why I did not pick up last evening or what I was going to do today. He said maybe he'd see his buddy tonight. But then he said he and I could go out and claimed he'd phone me later to arrange to go out. I was honest and again gently asked him if he could fix his car battery to come pick me up, because I'd wish to go on a real date with him and get to know him more. He claimed: "Oh, sure!"
Then he said he was busy and had to go.
I was feeling unsettled.
I phoned him again. Gently, I asked if he'd mind if I asked a question---was there a reason he had not introduced me to Gloria yesterday morning?
He claimed it was because she was old and not feeling well. I said "ok," and I let it go. Then I put myself out there again and talked about how I really wished to meet someone whom wanted the same things as me, such as a real relationship, maybe a child someday, caring, et cetera. But suddenly he attacked me and yelled that if I was breaking up with him again, the to just do it and get it over with. I was blown away. I very gently said that I was not at all doing so, that I was actually trying to open to him and share and see if he wished the same things, is all.
He suddenly said that it was way too , too early for all that and that I was pushing things and that he didn't know me enough, and so on.
Wow.
I was again blown away. And I knew it was over.
He repeated that I should just let things happen naturally and not aver-analyse.
That night he broke his promise to phone me to go out. He never ever phoned me. I already knew that he would not phone me.
He phoned the next morning to claim that he'd been busy and his phone had been "out of range." He said some stuff about a hot day, so on. And he was very general. He never ever asked to see me. He made no comment. He never contacted me again.
I don not even have closure. I know its over, but don't have closure.
I APOLOGIZE FOR THE LENGTH.But I wrote it all so you all have backround on me.
I know it's over with guy G.
BUT WHAT I WANT TO KNOW IS WHAT DO U ALL THINK OF THIS GUY G?
Guy G is all I want to know. Please be brutally honest and tell me where I went wrong and what have u.
ALSO, TELL ME WHAT U ALL THINK ABOUT THIS GUY G.
PLEASE BE DETAILED.
