So here's the scoop... ive been with this guy for two years... we have had a very passionate, fun relationship... and I thought, we both felt very strong love for one another...

Not only was this guy my best friend (and I his,. ) he was the most amazing lover I had ever been with... my problem, I was too clingy..

We broke up a little before christmas this year, but got back together 16 days later...

We were together for a month and a half after and (I thought... ) things were going great.
Well he started acting weird and started talking to me less , then one day when I was at work sent me a message that said 'i didn't want to end it this way... '

I freaked out at first, then I remember how last time I did no contact and 5 days later he went crazy texting me... so I cut off communication... it didn't last for long, a few days later he was sending me pokes over face book, and when I ignored those, he texted me...

I would really love to get him back... its been a little over two weeks now that we've been broken up...

Yesterday I decided to give my mum my cell and told her to hide it so I wouldn't be tempted to text him or reply to his texts, and I got my best friend to change my msn passwords and Facebook password! I've joined a gym, started reading again, spent a lot of time with my friends, and am generally doing what's supposed to happen in no contact. I realize I was too clingy and if we do end up back together, I don't want to break any of my new routines...

Now its just the waiting game...

Is there realistically a chance of him coming back?

Stay with your new routines and accept the fact he is gone. No contact will not bring him back only he can, and since he hasn't called leave him alone and get on with your life.

So you desperately want him back but you have gotten rid of all the ways in which he can contact you? How does that work?

I'm glad you admitted that you were clingy. I hope you have made a genuine attempt to fix that problem, because if you haven't, even if he does come back he will most likely only leave again.

I just want to know though, how will you know if he wants to come back if he has no way of contacting you, or if he is trying you are ignoring him?

Wouldn't some honest and frank discussion also help? Maybe you could explain to him your new routine and how you have set about trying to remedy your clingyness. Tell him you realise the error of your ways and things will be different from now on.

The onus is then on you to ensure you are true to your word.

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Originally Posted by cherrybombshell88

so heres the scoop...ive been with this guy for two years...we have had a very passionate, fun relationship...and i thought, we both felt very strong love for one another...

not only was this guy my best friend (and I his,..) he was the most amazing lover i had ever been with...my problem, i was too clingy..

we broke up a little before christmas this year, but got back together 16 days later....

we were together for a month and a half after and (I thought...) things were going great.
well he started acting weird and started talking to me less , then one day when i was at work sent me a message that said 'i didnt want to end it this way...'

i freaked out at first, then i remember how last time i did no contact and 5 days later he went crazy texting me...so i cut off communication...it didnt last for long, a few days later he was sending me pokes over face book, and when i ignored those, he texted me...

i would really love to get him back...its been a little over two weeks now that weve been broken up...

yesterday i decided to give my mum my cell and told her to hide it so i wouldnt be tempted to text him or reply to his texts, and i got my best friend to change my msn passwords and facebook password! ive joined a gym, started reading again, spent alot of time with my friends, and am generally doing whats supposed to happen in no contact. i realize i was too clingy and if we do end up back together, i dont want to break any of my new routines...

now its just the waiting game...

is there realistically a chance of him coming back??

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Girl,u doing the right thing so don't trip and if he wantedu back he would do anything possible 2 do it right but if he does that then he u2 deserve each other

I agree with Skell here.

No contact is an excellent idea in most cases, including this one. But both of you seem interested in fixing the problems and continuing the relationship, so something else needs to be done.

Break no contact. Talk to him, let him know that you are interested in working out the problems. But to do that, you both need time alone to think the problems over. Set a timeframe... three months or so. Yes, it seems like a long time now, but it's more than worth it if you want to continue the relationship. Once you've decided on that, and set ground rules for the break, go back into no contact.

Take time for yourself. You seem to be doing that part well, and I hope you continue to progress. He needs to do the same.

At the end of the time you've decided on, break no contact. Talk out the issues that you've been mulling over, and decide from there.