Ask Me Help Desk - Selfish boyfriend

I have been dating my boyfriend for two years. We live together and pay everything 50/50 even though he makes what I make in a week in one day... we just recently got a dog and I bought the dog some stuff and he was supposed to give me half which was 20.. the next morning I said "hey do you have 20$".. he said no I said OK than he said for what I said for the dog stuff so than he said yea I got it... this really hurt my feelings because I feel like when he thought it was for me he said no.. what really hurts is when he was in jail for a year I kept minutes on my phone 25 every couple of days and sent him 50 every week.. than when he got out he was in the hospital for a couple months I paid all the bills for 6 months even got a second job which I have now quit.. I feel like he only cares about himself and it really hurt me especially about 20$.. I don't even need it it's just the principle

If you can't talk to him and resolve this, what's the point? If this upset you, tell him he is selfish, and unfair.

Living with a boyfriend who splits everything 50/50 and he makes more money?? Outrageous. Hun you shouldn't even have to ask for him to pay you back. Taking a second job to pay his hospital bills is a lot your doing for him. He is a grown MAN and needs to support himself and his lady if you are living together

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Originally Posted by myownopinion

living with a boyfriend who splits everything 50/50 and he makes more money???? outrageous. hun you shouldnt even have to ask for him to pay you back. taking a second job to pay his hospital bills is a lot your doing for him. he is a grown MAN and needs to support himself and his lady if you are living together

I do agree that he needs to support himself. I don't agree that he needs to support her any more than she needs to support him.

This isn't the 1800's. Women are more than capable of supporting themselves. They don't need a man to do it for them.

To the OP (original poster). If you don't like the situation then leave. Did he ask you to get a second job to help him when he was in jail and in hospital? Did he ask for the phone minutes? Did he ask you to do any of the things you did for him? If not, you did it on your own, and have no one but yourself to blame for it.

Your post is about $20. That's not a lot of money, so I have to assume that there's more to this than meets the eye. I'd guess that this $20 was the last straw. If that's the case, you don't need anyone's permission, or anyone's acknowledgment that it's time to leave. That's your choice. But, if you stay, and continue to do all you're doing, then that's on you and you alone. You make your own choices. If you can't live with them, you have the choice to leave.

In other words, don't play the "I did so much for him. I'm a saint" card. You chose to do it. No one forced you, anymore than anyone is forcing you to continue.