Hi,
I really need help!
I have been with my husband for 6 years, both are completely faithful to one another however since we married sex has gone from 3 times a week to once a week to eventually once every 3 weeks on a Sunday morning like clockwork. Squeeze boobs, play with my clot, not allowed to touch him, roll over bang from behind, ejaculate. Done in 20 minutes max. No feeling, no passion, just relief on his part. While I lie there thinking about the housework. I have talked to himm about how I feel and he just continues to say OK tonight, OK later but nothing ever happens. I have asked him if there is a problem which there was but after 2 years of this intermittent problem and me being very patient, a booked doctors appointment which he refused to go to because everything was OK now and things will get better which haven't I am at my wits end. I have dressed up, made romantic meals, booked us into hotels, I do everything at home for him and the kids, I work full time, sort out all finances and all he does is come in and expect his tea and then watches TV all night. I can't cope like this, I love him with all my heart but I think sometimes he thinks of me as his mum not his wife. Please help?

Why should he change? You beg and threaten and continue to consent to having sex his way.

I'd talk to him. Why participate in an experience when you're getting nothing out of it? I wouldn't withhold sex as "punish." I just wouldn't be terribly interested in being a participant until/unless things changed OR he agreed to go to a counsellor.

Just relax that's natures corse

So every three weeks start saying NO, say that until you have sex that is how you want, he does not get anymore his way.