I'm in relationship. I love him a lot, he loves me too guess . I'm having this doubt because he told me that he had told his parents about our relationship, as his mom heard him talking to me. I trusted him, but now when I told him that I want to talk to his mother he said I don't have much understanding with my parents, if you will talk to them then they will always be after me.

Even I know he's not much attached to his parents, and will feel bad if his parents will say anything wrong about our relations, but some how I'm not satisfied with his answer. I just want to know what should I do now?

Should I trust him for now, and not force him that I want to talk to his mom?

I fail to see what you can do by talking to his mom, so how old are you and how long have you been together, and how serious is this love. Please explain these details.

M 19 years old . I want to talk to his mother because I want to increase there bonding through myself as if I will be involved with his mother then he 'll feel more attached to his parents I guess. Moreover , I want this relation to for lifetime . It's been 1 year that we are in a relationship.

All due respect but this is not something you can't force, nor should you. Talk instead together and get an understanding with him, and find agreement without forcing or pushing for what you THINK will help. He clearly does not agree with you, so back off your ideas of getting between them to bond them. To be honest, you have no business in there relationship, as its for them to work out, not a stranger of a year.

Bond together, and stop trying to get in other aspects of his life. When he is ready, he will invite you, so do not intrude.

Whether I should continue my relationship or not? How do I know he really loves me or not?

Why do you feel he doesn't love you, and have you talked of the future since your last posting?

What culture do you live in ? Is Parent control or permission to marriage needed

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Originally Posted by Anu Joshi

I'm in relationship. I love him a lot, he loves me too guess . I'm having this doubt because he told me that he had told his parents about our relationship, as his mom heard him talking to me. I trusted him, but now when i told him that I want to talk to his mother he said i don't have much understanding with my parents, if you will talk to them then they will always be after me.

Even I know he's not much attached to his parents, and will feel bad if his parents will say anything wrong about our relations, but some how I'm not satisfied with his answer. I just want to know what should I do now?

Should I trust him for now, and not force him that I want to talk to his mom?

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Different teenage guys have different relationships with their parents. I have found that some are close to their families and some are not for many different reasons.

I am a 19 year old guy and up until very recently I had become very isolated from my parents and we weren't close. However, events in my life caused me to change my perspective and this helped me to mature, put old feelings behind me, and develop a new a close relationship with them.

I don't know his family situation, but do not force any confrontation. Hopefully, in time, he will build a better relationship with his parents. Something like this can not be forced.