I lost my husband 4 weeks ago and I have a 10 year old daughter. We moved to France 3 years ago for my husbands job. My husband became so ill from cancer and died here in France it was such a shock to be in another Country and alone with my daughter when my beloved husband is gone. It's so lonely and I miss him so much. He promised to come to me but he hasn't and my daughter dreams of him all the time but I haven't had any dreams at all and it makes me so sad when all I want to do is hear his voice telling me he is OK. My daughter dreamt last night that he was walking around in the blue robe I bought him for his birthday and he had his head on the table resting I was in the living room and she said, "daddy's not with us anymore." and I said "in the dream" Daddy is still with us and then he said, "I'm still with you." It was very moving. I think he is comforting my daughter now. He was amazing.

You need bereavement assistance, both of you,in order to find closure and move forward.

We all remember our love ones we lose in death different ways. Yes she and even you will dream of your husband, as we do anytime, even in life, The dreams often keep them alive in our memories. It does not mean he is "coming back" or talking to her, it only means she misses and remembers him. Please consider grief counseling perhaps moving back to be around your family and friends.

Of course he is on your mind... and your daughters. I would find it odd if you ladies WEREN'T dreaming about him... but this is not to be taken literally. Making the promise that he would come to you is simply something he cannot accomplish. We all get one shot at life and one shot at eternity. Nobody is expecting you not to miss him. Death will always be a part of life. You and your daughter should look into getting this dealt with professionally... not that you are crazy in any sense... but just to help you through a very difficult and trying time.

Hopefully that means your husband has moved on to where he is supposed to be in the afterlife. I am sorry for your loss. As others have suggested, please consider grief counseling either private or group.

Peace...

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Originally Posted by Alexandracakes

I lost my husband 4 weeks ago and I have a 10 year old daughter. We moved to France 3 years ago for my husbands job. My husband became so ill from cancer and died here in France it was such a shock to be in another Country and alone with my daughter when my beloved husband is gone. It's so lonely and I miss him so much. He promised to come to me but he hasn't and my daughter dreams of him all the time but I haven't had any dreams at all and it makes me so sad when all I want to do is hear his voice telling me he is ok. My daughter dreamt last night that he was walking around in the blue robe I bought him for his birthday and he had his head on the table resting I was in the living room and she said, "daddy's not with us anymore." and I said "in the dream" Daddy is still with us and then he said, "I'm still with you." It was very moving. I think he is comforting my daughter now. He was amazing.

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This is very sad to not be able to even dream about who you have lost. However there are memories and photographs. If you stare at an image for five minutes every day this may help you to dream of him. Dreams are often creations that are made by the psyche, so if you impress an image of him on your mind it is possible that a dream may open up and you might be able to experience him once again.