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  • Apr 8, 2012, 01:00 PM
    dabhab26
    Serious Dilemma.
    I have been on and off with my boyfriend for 6 years and been together from a very young age.there has been cheating on both parts, and he says he can’t trust me. However I still to this day can’t trust him 100%, the amount of lies etc he has told me before. I left him and met another man about a year ago, and it opened his eyes, and started to treat me better.

    However I still don’t feel happy even though I want to be with happy with him. I have been seeing a male friend a lot more lately and its turned into something (I didn't mean for this to happen at all). I feel guilty and now I’m confused. I know I have myself to blame but I think I love two people.

    I don’t want to hurt either of them the new guy said he will still be my friend if nothing comes of it he’s really nice and a lot of what I look for in a man and we definitely click. However my boyfriend I couldn’t stand seeing him with another girl, and part of me really just wants to forget it happened, and be with him, and try make things work HELP!!
  • Apr 8, 2012, 02:09 PM
    talaniman
    Then go home and work on your relationship, and leave the guy friend alone. If you are so unhappy, leave and don't worry about what he does. But don't run to another guy and feather your bed for the future. That's cheating. Seems to me you are still doing what broke the trust in the first place.

    Either you want to work to rebuild, or leave and start over, but it's a mistake to allow yourself to be distracted from the prime relationship, instead of looking for solutions. Once you are unhappy, and have one foot out of the door, you may as well leave altogether, and heal properly before jumping into something that looks on the surface, better than what you have. You know, the grass looks greener, because your yard is such a mess?

    I think its time to be single and free for a long time myself.

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