Hi I've been with my girlfriend for 8 years now and for the 1st 2 years the sex was amazing and I knew she fancied me but just recently I suddenly feel she doesn't notice me anymore, she never compliments me or shows any interest in me and I always have to make the 1st move in bed, I compliment her looks at least twice a day to boost her self esteem but get nothing in return, I actually started thinking she was a bit weird and wasn't attracted to any men anymore but I overheard her tell her sister how she was drooling over enrique at his concert and other words to that effect which really shocked me ( yes I knew she thought he was good looking ) bcos she never acts that way with me and it honestly dented myself esteem now it just bugs me all the time and I feel a bit rejected

Every relationship becomes stale. You both have to make the effort after a certain amount of time, to spice it up. She may be stressed from work, she might want to try something new. Think of something you'd like to try and discuss it with her. You've been together a while now, and it's not always going to be like teenagers wanting to pounce on each other!

x Dani

U just need something bew ro spice up your life

Lol yeah I know, we do still have sex and it's great but I feel it's all me wanting it and not her, I know she enjoys it once we get into it but still at least once in a while I would like her to tell me I'm sexy and she wants me, I mean I always compliment her when she has her hair done or wearing new clothes or whenever I feel she looks good but I get nothing ever in return, it never used to bother me before until I heard her speaking that way about enrique, it wasn't just basic like saying he looks good it was basically drooling and fantasizing about him in a way that pissed me off, I'm fine with her thinking guys look good but I don't want her saying things like that about them when she never says anything good about me..

Um... talk to her.

Honestly, it is the best way to resolve things like these. It might not relsove anything but it will bring it to a head. These things are often forgotten when you get into the swing of things in a relationship.