Hi I'm a 30yr old male.. I love my girl to death but she is never in the mood for sex.. and I don't understand why.. we use to have a great sex life then she had my son and it just STOP OUT THE BLUE (MY SON IS 3 NOW) I use to think it was me but I'm not to sure now... everything I trye she tells me she doesn't like it?. it has gotin to the point where its getn to affect myself confidence its to the point where we will be laying in bed and I want sex so bad but I lay there scard of the (turn down) to scard to even try (I don't know what to do)... I have never felt like this before... she tells me she is attracted to me but we rarly even kiss (passionatly that is) I know she loves me... I try to talk to her but that just turns into a fight... I don't know what to do... I don't want to leave her whit out tryn all I can try.. so is there any help any tips any way I can change this.. and keep my family or is this the signs of the end of us... HELP

As a female, and one with children, I can completely understand her. Being a mom is a full time job.

So I have to ask. How much do you help around the house, with your son? Does your girlfriend work outside of the home? Do you cook? Do you clean? Do you change diapers? Do you do anything other than ask for sex?

One thing men don't seem to understand about women is that our desires stem from being content. In other words, if we're stressed, running around all day, working, cooking, cleaning, taking care of kids, while our husbands, or the father of our children, don't do a thing to help, it's very hard (no matter how much you love him or are attracted to him), to switch off all the stress and get in the mood for sex.

You want to get into her pants, then get into her head, and help her out! That's the only advice I can offer you.

I help every way I can I even make her sit down so I can do more I clean I have my son all day.. look sex is not everything to me but once every 3months is a lot to handle I understand she might be tired and all... but togo without sex 3to5 months... wow its hard