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  • Apr 5, 2012, 08:05 PM
    Kerrysbaby
    I think he's hiding something
    I'm 19 an my boyfriend is 22. He's still married, an has been separated from his wife for a year. We've been together for 7 months now. But he talks to other girls all the time, an if it wasn't for his son every other weekend id say he's cheating. I trust him but not like I should. He's told me how he cheated on his wife but it was when there marriage was going down hill. At the beginning of our relationship we were public. Now were not, an its like he's keeping me a secret. Our Family an my friends an a few of his friends know. I hacked his Facebook today an he got a message from this girl saying how she liked him, he said he couldn't do a relationship Because he has a job an his son to worry about an no time for anything else. But we're together an live with each other. He says he loves me but I don't know sometimes. Should I be worried?
  • Apr 6, 2012, 10:00 AM
    sparks123
    No matter if his marriage was going downhill or not, he shouldn't of cheated. And chances are that if he cheated then, he can cheat now. Even if he's not cheating, it sounds like he's keeping a secret by keeping you a secret. Just ask him about the girl, and see what he says. If you have a gut feeling that he's lying, then he definitely is. It doesn't matter how much you want to be with him. If he's keeping things, then he's not worth your time. Just come plain out and say what you asked up there ^^^. Tell him what's on your mind. If he's lying, you should know. Hope everything works out for the best.
  • Apr 8, 2012, 04:37 PM
    talaniman
    Oh boy, living with a guy that's still married and freshly separated when you met him was a really lousy idea. You are not supposed to trust a cheater, and some one who can't handle his business, let alone move in with him. I hope you are not foolish enough to get pregnant by this fool.
  • Apr 8, 2012, 04:44 PM
    Fr_Chuck
    He is still cheating on his wife ( with you) He was basically cheating on her when he meet you and most likely never stopped dating other girls also. *** my opinion***

    On his face book, does he show his relationship with you, are you named as a girlfriend on face book. Tell him that you are going to start going out on dates again and see what happens.
  • Apr 9, 2012, 07:32 AM
    Kerrysbaby
    We've talked about it. I told him how it wasn't fare to me to have to hide who I'm dating. We've known each other for over 7 years. There actually separated, working on the divorce. He says that only messy girls that talk to his ex are the ones he's told he's single. Its still the fact that it hurts my feelings, because he's not single. He said that he doesn't want drama with her because of there son, an if I can't understand that then I can go somewhere else. This the one thing we fight about the most. He also said that as soon as his divorce is final then I can blast to the world that were together. He's started acting a lot nicer since I've told him how I felt. He tells me every morning an night that I'm the one he wants an I'm the one he loves. I love him I do, an I want to make this work. I just don't feel like I can trust him till he can prove me wrong.
  • Apr 9, 2012, 05:24 PM
    talaniman
    Do his words, and actions match?
  • Apr 9, 2012, 05:52 PM
    mmresd
    Break up with him, the moment he is serious he can get a divorce.
  • Apr 10, 2012, 11:46 AM
    Kerrysbaby
    They do. He's been trying to prove to me that he really does want me. But I've been really hurt in my past an I'm not sure I can trust him.
  • Apr 10, 2012, 12:57 PM
    talaniman
    And you got with him because he was someone that has helped you through a tough time, but in fact you are the latest addition to his harem. Know your place, or leave him behind. A tough place to be for an expectant female.

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