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  • Apr 5, 2012, 02:31 PM
    ultradove99
    My orgasms have stopped!!
    Need a little help...

    I do not have orgasm during penetrating sex anymore. I used to before but for some reason they just stopped!! And I honestly don't know if it my fault or not. I think I'm bisexual but I can't be sure, girls turn me on big time, and if I'm honest with myself, I will say more than guys do. I'm crazy about porn, and I mean teenager going through puberty crazy. I'm always watching lesbian porn, and I love it so much that I have to touch myself after, or during.

    Is it that am not attracted to guys any more? Or is it my mind set? And now my boyfriend is making it his goal too ''make me come '' because its driving him crazy that I'm the only girl he never made'' come'' during penetration. I get really wet, and the tremors are there but I know its not the big O because I've had it before.

    Am 24, and a mom of 6 yrs.

    What can I do to start getting orgasms during penetration again?
  • Apr 7, 2012, 11:13 AM
    CravenMorhead
    That is a problem that if you could find out the answer would make you a millionaire. Being able to orgasm off penetrative sex isn't all that common.

    Anyhow, what's changed?

    Also don't concentrate on the goal of orgasming too much. You'll miss the journey for the destination and won't get there in the end. It may happen or it may not. It is getting to stressful and that will subconsciously kill the mood. Just have fun with it. It might happen it might not.

    As for the boyfriend, I would doubt his claim. It might have been a string of good fakers.

    Being bi-sexual might have something to do with it, but I doubt you are too much. You never know. It might be something to explore if you want. I wouldn't do that while you're still attached to the boyfriend.

    The primary thing to figure out is what changed? Is it stress in your life, or your little one walking in, concerned about getting pregnant again? Once you figure out that then it should get easier.
  • Apr 13, 2012, 07:48 AM
    Girl1
    I have rarely ever hit it with penetration, I say fake it till u make it, & the good stuff doesn't come from inside, in my opinion, it's the friction on the outer part. Porn is easy because u can get that mental escape & usually alone so no pressure helps too.
  • Apr 13, 2012, 09:14 AM
    CravenMorhead
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Girl1 View Post
    I have rarely ever hit it with penetration, I say fake it till u make it, & the good stuff doesn't come from inside, in my opinion, it's the friction on the outer part. Porn is easy because u can get that mental escape & usually alone so no pressure helps too.

    Don't fake it. Never fake it. That is just bloody insulting to the man.
  • Apr 13, 2012, 12:14 PM
    smoothy
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by CravenMorhead View Post
    Don't fake it. Never fake it. That is just bloody insulting to the man.

    Yes... and it makes him believe he's doing everything perfectly. So if he's not because you fake then it becomes all your fault.
  • Apr 13, 2012, 12:28 PM
    Girl1
    Oh please, I meant in her mind, yes, go into your zone and pretend your in a porn you like... Every woman I've ever talked to about sex does it to get "there" - actually my best friend fell in live with this guy & for months was frustrated about not being able to, she didn't want him to feel bad & pretended & bam there it came! Think it's the letting go part that does the trick! Say whatever you want fellows, it works.

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