My girlfriend finds my behaviour embarrassing when we are out together and gets angry and short tempered with me. I am very outgoing but my behaviour is not offensive and her friends all like me. She just has a strong reaction to it and now she wants to end our 2 year relationship, we even got engaged about a year ago. She thinks it's an incompatibility issue but I think we can solve it. We have had a lot of stress lately that has contributed to it. It's the last chance to save this relationship and I know we both love each other, what should I do?

You obviously behaved the same way when you first met and in the 2 years together, your engaged, so there also must be plenty that she loves about you, there is a compromise i.e you tone it down when your out together with your friends, however, it also depends on what excatly she has a problem with, example, does she say your too flirty with her friends or too touchy feely, are you drinking too much?

Can you provide more information, perhaps an example for a more rounded reply.

I'm never touchy feely with her friends, I never flirt with anyone in front of her (I think it's disrespectful) and I drink a little too heavily, but this has been compounded by the stress of buying a home together and my starting a business where I am alone all day. I use alcohol as a release and am transferring that to exercise as the weather is getting better. But she is annoyed even when I'm sober and talking to her friend that I have known for about 8 years. She says I am too serious and over talkative, but I like to help people with their problems and am quite compassionate and understanding. Everyone else likes me a lot and she only seems to have this problem when we are out with other people. Even when we are out alone everything is fine.

How willing is she to try to resolve these issues?

Its rather common for couples under stress to be bad at getting along, given your little time together. I think if you cannot communicate and find a way to resolve your issues, and make adjustments that work for you both, then this will never work.

So get a quiet place, at a quiet time, and calmly talk about it.