I've been dating this guy for 8 months. He started really great. He was the guy I always wanted. But 2 months into it and he forced me to leave my high school, I attend night school now. I left all my friends because he claimed that because he gave them all up for me, that I should do the same for him. I had two miscarriages because of the stress he put me through. We broke up for a week because he tried to kill my brother. He apologized and I forgave him. After all that, he began to change. He constantly accuses me of cheating, he goes through my phone, he refuses to ever let miss a day of going to his house. He always says I choose my family over him and that I never have any time for him. When all I ever do, is stay with him until 12:30 in the morning. I do even go out with my family anymore. Every time I say I want to break up he threatens me by saying he's going to take his own life. He always passes my house to make sure I'm home. He sends me 1,200 text messages everyday. Now, I met someone else who I really like and who wants to treat me better, but I can't leave the bad relationship I'm in. He threatened to kill my new friend, and to really hurt me. He has hit me once in the past. I'm terrified. Please help me.

I suggest a police protection order and an order for him to visit the psychiatrist.

Leave him, if you have enough proof, get a restraining order against him, He is controlling you by threats, by violence.

Change your phone numbers and don't read any text, break off all contact at once. If he comes around, don't open the door and call the police.

I'm sure you see what you need to do. The question is, why aren't you doing it.

Controlling, abusive individuals are a dime a dozen. These type of people isolate you from your old life (and the people in it), and create a new life for you, under their control. They dictate how you can feel, talk, look, and monitor your every minute of every day. And when you comply with all that they need, or all that you think they need in order to feel secure about you, they find new and other more violent ways of control.

You have seen this. In the beginning things were fine. Then your life was changed upside down, to the point where he tried to KILL your brother!! This man is dangerous, and you need to wake up and take back the control of your own life.

If you have phone records or can get phone records of the calls he makes to you, get copies. Write down every time he drives by your house, every time he threatens you, hits you, etc. Visit your local PD for information on how they can assist and advise you to safely proceed. I guarantee you that if you think this man is capable of extreme violence, you could be in for more, not less, and you need to be informed in order to protect yourself.

Enlist the help of your family. Get a restraining order that includes them. Don't be fooled into thinking that a restraining order will stop him from trying. Don't be fooled into thinking that just talking to him will change anything whatsoever. Keep calling the police. Keep records.

He is dangerous and he is unpredictable, and he cannot control himself, and you cannot control him. To engage in any communication with this man, could very well see you added to the long list of women before you who have died at the hands of men just like the one you are involved with now.

Do you love him? Why did you get to date him in the first place? If you love him, try to go under his skin and see why he treats you this way. Maybe he is jealous, or maybe he has low selfesteen and he is being so controlling so that you don't think of ever leaving him.

I agree with Jake2008. You already know that relationship isn't right so get out. Continue the new relationship with the guy you just met and lean on your family for support to make sure you don't go back to this guy. He has isolated you from your family and friends, keeps tabs on you and tries to make you feel guilty. That's what controlling men do. He has threatened to kill himself if you leave because he's trying to make you feel guilty for leaving him. I don't know if you will be able to get a restaining order unless something recently happened and you called the police but if anything else happends make sure you call the police. Change you phone number. If he keeps coming to your house move if you can. If he continues contact the police and tell them he is stalking you. Do what ever you need to do to make sure he stays out of your life. Turn to your family and let them know you need them.

Start with the cops, and tell everyone you know about this very dangerous, psycho, stalker NUT CASE!!

My boyfriend is controlling by not letting me go out with my friends because my ex's may be there, and he wants all of my attention to be on him. I've also recently started talking to a friend who wants to treat me better but not be too serious. However its nothing like your situation. If my boyfriend ever hit me, even just once, I would say "see ya, wouldn't wanna be ya". There's nothing more harder than breaking up with a person , especially if you love them. But in this case, you shouldn't care how much you love the guy. And if he's threatening to kill himself, then he needs help, and not from you. Get rid of the controlling guy and move on to the other guy who will treat you better.