Ask Me Help Desk - Never too young for love?

I'm only 12 almost 13 and I honestly think I'm in love... With my friend's brother!! He used to say I was pretty and stuff so my friend decides to go up to her brother and tell him... it's been about... 6 months since he found out... I never really talked to him before... and he's almost 2 years older... so now he thinks I'm creepy because he knows pretty much nothing about me and I don't know LOTS about him but I know a bit... like favorite food is sushi and so is mine and that's why me and my friends call him sushi when we want to talk about him... (He doesn't know that nick name)... and I know he plays and likes football... I know he used to like Harry Potter but now he thinks it's boring and I'm like "Harry Potter is not boring!" I know he's so nice, and thoughtful... and I know he's exactly 3.23 inches taller than me... I know his birthday is June 14th and I didn't even check Facebook for anything and I know that whenever I'm over he's either at football in the spring or summer and in fall and winter either doing homework or playing video games hahha...

Well anywise... My friend says I can't do anything about it because he thinks I'm creepy, and he wouldn't want to talk to me... they even locked me and sushi in a room together... hahah He was so cute... I'll tell anyone that story if they want to know... Oh and I know he looks so good in my favorite color with is teal blue... so, I think I'm in love but I don't know what to do about it... since he is older and in the high school and I'm in the middle school of our district I never get to see him...

Next year I graduate from middle school though... so... I don't know whether to talk to him or not and stuff so please give advice on him... but I don't know because my friend does say don't talk to him and they tell each other everything...

When I was your age, I had a crush on a girl but I was too shy to talk to her. Our classmates then even handcuffed me and my crush but I couldn't even look at her. I choked whenever I tried to talk to her. But if you think you can handle talking to your crush, then you could say hi and smile. Don't you get nervous around your crush?

Well... I may seem confident and talkative over the internet but I'm a SHY person like sooo much I can't even call their house anymore in fear he'll pick up... I've tried talking to him but I choke every time... like I'm just wondering that if you were him would you want me to talk to you?

I've been in this situation before. It was my brothers best mate and I liked him since I met him, he is almost three years older than me , just about to go off to college now. And we dated even though I didn't think it was possible. I thought he thought I was creepy too. How do u know he thj is your creepy? He might actually like you, just ask him who he likes And watch him closely for body language like blushing . It could mean he likes you, but if he says that he likes someone else back off. Only act on it if you've got a good idea that he likes you. Think about it carefully though, more than you would with other guys. Because this is your brothers friend . Do you know when people moan its awkward when they bump into their ex at school? Imagine that, except in your own home too. Trying to avoid awkward situations with him will be harder in your own home. Believe me, Ive been there. I'm not saying it can't end well, I actually know a girl who married her brothers best friend ! Just think carefully. Hope this helps, Love Anna x

You're 12 and he is in high school and 14. Sounds like you have a crush and believe me, it will pass. I understand the crush but I would leave him alone.
What would you talk about? You both are too young to date.

A crush and love are very different things. At 12 you are too young to really tell the difference. You are at an age when you start to get boy crazy, but really are too young to be dating.

I'm rather disturbed that you were locked in a room alone with him. Putting a 14 yr old boy alone with a 12 yr old girl is a recipe for disaster.

But the bottom line is that he is apparently not interested in you, so that's the end of it for now. Maybe when you are both in HS he will feel differently. But for now you don't do anything about it.

Even if it isn't true about him thinking you are creepy, the message is clear: for now anyway, he's not interested, and rightly so. He's in high school and his friends (everyone actually) would think HE was creepy if he were seeing a 12 year old, especially when you aren't in the same school yet. They'd call him cradle robber and worse. When you are older, even a few years from now, 2 or 3 years difference is nothing. So try to pretend you don't have a crush and just say hi when you are at your friends and be as casual as you can without being fake. If that means staying away from him, then that's best.

In my dance classes there are girls like more than half of them have been dating the same guy since they were 13 and the guy is two years older, and those girls are in high school and their boyfriends are in college...

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In my dance classes there are girls like more than half of them have been dating the same guy since they were 13 and the guy is two years older, and those girls are in high school and their boyfriends are in college...

And your point is? You are not 13 yet and whatever the parents of these girls allowed does not affect you. If YOUR parents allow you to date at 13, then you can date at 13. A 2 year difference is not out of line at that age, though it is a stretch.

But the real issue is your friend's brother has shown no interest in dating you. So leave him alone.

You do need to discuss with your parents Their rules on your dating.

If u think es th kind of guy that wouldn't freak out, talk to him. If u think he's not the best with that type of conversation... don't. But life doesn't last forever and u won't know until u ask...

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Originally Posted by FlynnRiderLover

If u think es th kind of guy that wouldn't freak out, talk to him. If u think he's not the best with that type of conversation...don't. But life doesn't last forever and u won't know until u ask....

Before she can talk any guy about dating she needs to get her parent's permission. If her parent's fell she is too young to date, then she has to wait.

Young people are trying to grow up too fast these days. They are trying to emulate adult behavior they see in movies and TV before they are emotionally ready. Let them enjoy being a child as long as they can.