My girlfriend split up with me, and I'm a bit confused about it.
Hi. Basically my girlfriend and I just split up recently and I'm confused as to what's really going on with her. We both go to University together, come from the same place, but didn't meet until University. I also live about 5 minutes from her house where we go to University. We had a really good relationship for the most part. Yeh, we argued sometimes and had some problems, but nothing serious. I'm not her first long term relationship, but the first person she's ever said she loves, and she is definitely the girl I could see and imagined a future with.
The first 6 months were great, we saw each other most days, and everything was great. She does a dance course at Uni, which progressively got more hectic as we're both in our second year. I study Music Tech. As she wants to get the best possible mark for her course, she took a lot of extra curricular dance stuff up as well. This meant she was doing 8 am - 7 pm Mon - Fri, plus rehearsals after, and rehearsals on the weekend. This basically left very little time for us to do anything, and have any fun. We saw each other less and the sex decreased dramatically. She stated she was still as in love with me, and attracted to me and it was purely the stress of Uni that was causing these problems, and the fact she was tired all the time. We went on a break for a couple weeks when we broke up for the term, and said we would definitely pick things back up either over the holiday, or when we returned to Uni. I didn't contact her for 2 weeks, and she then sent me a message telling me she missed me, was wondering how I was and that she loved me. I then arranged to meet up with her to talk about things, and get back together. She said that sounded great, and we had a phone call a couple days later. During this phonecall, I put the situation out in front of her, and said if we got back together, would things really be any different and would she have the time to be girlfriend. After talking for 30 minutes, she said she could see what I mean and started having doubts.
I then came and saw her for the first time in 3 weeks, and we had another long conversation. She told me that she still loved me, is attracted to me, but doesn't want this anymore, as she wants to concentrate on her course. I tried everything to change her mind, and there was a lot of tears and it was quite emotionally draining. I eventutally convinced her to give it another shot, and we parted ways. When I got home, I thought about what I said, and thought I acted unfair and forced her into a corner. I sent her a message telling her all this, and that she should make the best decision for her and her life. 4 days later I got a message saying she doesn't want to get back together, and that she was sorry. She says she still loves me and is as much attracted to me as she ever was, but because of Uni can't have a relationship right now and wants to be by herself.
I'm heartbroken. I can't eat, sleep and all I can think about is her. She has promised that Uni would never get in the way of our relationship a few months in, but it has done exactly that. I am so sure that this is the girl I want to be with, so I need some advice. Do you think if I leave her alone, and give her space, eventually she will come back? I asked her if there was any chance that we would get back together, but she said she didn't know. I've deleted her number and Facebook so I am not tempted to contact her. Is there any chance of this working out somewhere down the line, or do you think I should move on?
