Ask Me Help Desk - 3rd dui?

so I just got out of jail on a BAIL for my 3rd DUI in less then 1 1/2 year! I'm only 20 years old and I haven't even gone to court and got my charges for my 2nd DUI yet? And I just got my 3rd DUI. I have court in 2 weeks from today and I'm scard! People are saying that I could end up spending time in PRISON? OK and YES I've learned a lesson yes I know after my 3rd DUI but this is the first time I got actully booked in jail =( it was horriable! I hated it! Well what do you think imma get charged with? I know I'm FU****!

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I know its not cool at all driving drunk and yes I know if I hurt someone while driving under the influence I would feel real worthless! I've been through a lot in life and I'm only 20 years old and yes I do have a 4 years old son! YES yell at me for my stupidity but I know its not my time to go cause I've tried so now I'm just living it! The first time that I got my DUI I was drunk, pissed, and angry. My friend demanded me to stay over that night but I was angry and was not trying to stay at her house so I stoled my keys from her and drove off. It was a 15 min. drive to my house and I blacked out all the way home and finally I crashed into a poll, I didn't hurt no one luckily! I finish my DUI class pay my fines. After a year I decided to drink at a co-workers party on Friday the 13th, I got wasted, my friends took my keys from me so I stayed the night at their house. The next morning I woke up still pretty much drunk but I took my keys from my friends pocket while he was sleeping and drove home. When I got home I got into a argument with my little sister and I punched her in the mouth! I was shocked to see her crying and blood running down her mouth. I never ever had hit my little sis like that ever because we were always getting along and never had to fight like that ever but I guess I was still drunk from the night before and the anger had came out! I was shocked that I hit her and I felt REALLY bad, you don't even understand? Well I thought ill drive off to cool myself down but as I was driving I was cring also at the fact that I had just hit my little sis! I felt real bad I wanted to hurt myself? Just to get me back for what I did to her! I blacked out again driving 20 minutes. North on the highway I got to a cliff where I thought maybe I can end this for good so I did! I went off a 200ft. Cliff... I guess like everyone said its not my time to go? I survived! Woke up in the hospital with only 8 staples on my knee. Still feeling really bad for what I did to my little sis! I guess you can say suicidal comes to my mind sometimes! After my accident I never touched a car until now! I only had 3 beers I was totally not drunk at all we were going up 2 blocks to DENNY'S and the cops pulled us over and said I was going to slow? I was going speed limit! I knew the cops were in back of me but I didn't think I was drunk so I didn't care if they were in back! I passed all the test except for the breathalizer test! Dame it! I knew I F***ed up for good this time and I knew I was going to get locked up for good this time too! Well I guess I deserve some jail time whatever but I rather be dead then do jail time cause my life sucks anyway! And don't feel sorry either!

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Jesushelper76-- IM A GIRL dude!

excon-- YES I minus well kill myself before I kill anyone! Thanks

J_9--its OK don't "apologize" I am listening to what you are saying and I
understand what you had to go through when you had your family members
killed by a drunk driver! And I'm sorry for what happened!

valinors_sorrow--and yes I know some people don't know what
others do go through but I know I am wrong! I will get help! Thank you.

You'll be lucky to get out with anything less than the maximum penalty (fine and possibly jail time and a suspended (or revoked) license for quite a while), and your car insurance is going to be extremely expensive for a long long time. Leniency is for your first offense... second and third show the court that you really don't care. What those penalties are will vary based on your state laws. I hope that they do lock you up for a few months... it's easy to say you've learned your lesson, but I doubt you have.

I highly recommend you stop drinking, permanently... you obviously don't have enough self-control to be drinking. Join AA if you have to.

You could also be sentenced for alcohol evaluation and classses to follow - which you pay for. Some states pull the license and you do not get that back until you have successfully complied with the eval and classes and you also pay to get your license back. Some states just plain pull your license.

Yes, you could have jail time, since this is your third offense in less than in 1 1/2 years. It depends how the court sees it. I have a second cousin who committed his fourth offense in two years and all he got was huge fines, driving privileges suspended for a year, community service of 300 hours. Which, when you think of it, hurts more than going to jail.

I know this is going to sound harsh. But you deserve prison. I would not want you behind the wheel driving down my street with my beautiful children, precious cargo, in the backseat just waiting to be hurt by someone who did not listen and learn the first time, or the second, or the third.

I adore my children and it is people who are repeat offenders like you who threaten to take the last breath of life out of my children.

So, you say you learned from being in jail and actually being booked. Well, let me tell you that being booked is nothing. Do you have any real idea what damage you could have caused by not learning the first time? So, get yourself into AA, now, before you go to court.

Again, I know I will get a bad rep for this one, but I don't care. Boo Hoo, you got busted once, and did nothing about it, got busted twice and did nothing about it. What are you going to do this time? Will you finally learn when a precious young life is taken because you decided to drink and drive?

So, now, suck it up and do what you are required to do. Don't risk taking the life of an innocent child. Accept the consequences of your actions.

In many states you have required jail time, I believe 6 months to one year in our state

I am an insurance agent writing mostly nonstandard or high risk auto insurance and my company for whom I work exclusively for, will not accept a driver with more than one DUI during their entire lifetime. Companies vary in what risks they will take but you will be extremely limited in your choice of insurance companies. It is very possible that your only alternative is an assigned risk pool administered by the state in which you live. I did not check your profile to determine what your legal residence is but you can easily find out if there is such a pool for drivers such as yourself by checking with either the DMV or the Insurance Dept of your state. Also you can ask agents in your area. I know that you really didn't ask for an insurance answer but if you work, need to drive as most people do, then you need to consider what your limited insurance alternatives are.

You did not learn from your lesson. If you did you would have not received the second or third dui. You deserve prison time. Hope you will learn before you end up killing somebody else or yourself.

RichardBondMan, isn't it true that some people don't care about insurance though? The old addage "it can't happen to me" or "I won't get caught" just rings a big bell here.

iiheartlooserrrs,

Please read this post. Is this something you want to do to another human being?

I apologize for going off on a tangent, but I have seen the accidents that happen because people were having "fun" I have seen the parents or the children in the ERs who have been told that they have lost someone.

Sometimes it takes a wake up call, apparently you have not had one yet. I offer you to come visit me in the ER so that you can see the damage that people who drink and drive create. After a night with me in the ER, I can guarantee that anyone who drinks and drives would get sick just looking at a liquor bottle much less having a drink.

I am sorry, but I am biased, I have a cousin who was killed by a drunk driver 22 years ago, he was almost 21. Then a good friend lost her son, he was 16 when he was killed on the way to babysit. The woman who was driving him asked him to hand her a beer, he said no, so she reached back to grab one, and BAM they hit a brick wall. Shane is dead, it took 21 days of agony for him to pass. He passed on his parent's anniversary, however the driver is perfectly fine to this day but she remembers nothing.

I guess I would do better by joining MAAD.

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Originally Posted by iiheartloserrrs

i know its not my time to go cause i've tried so now im just living it!!

It is rarely the drunk driver who dies in an accident. There are many medical reasons behind it, but the drunk driver rarely dies. It is the person who gets hit by the drunk driver that dies.

So, please, stop the excuses. There is never an excuse for drinking and driving, the only excuse would be stupididy, especially after you have already been caught once, then twice, to do it again is just...

You don't deserve help. The only reason you deserve life is because your family doesn't deserve to suffer through your death.

I'm done with this. Have fun in jail.

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Originally Posted by iiheartloserrrs

so i just got out of jail on a BAIL for my 3rd DUI in less then 1 1/2 year!! im only 20 years old and i havent even gone to court and got my charges for my 2nd DUI yet?? and i just got my 3rd DUI. i have court in 2 weeks from today and im scard!! people are saying that i could end up spending time in PRISON?? ok and YES i've learned a lesson yes i know after my 3rd DUI but this is the first time i got actully booked in jail =( it was horriable!! i hated it!! well what do yall think imma get charged with?? i know im FU****!!

UPDATED::

i know its not cool at all driving drunk and yes i know if i hurt someone while driving under the influence i would feel real worthless!! i've been through a lot in life and im only 20 years old and yes i do have a 4 years old son!! YES go ahead and yell at me for my stupidity but i know its not my time to go cause i've tried so now im just living it!! the first time that i got my DUI i was drunk, pissed, and angry. my friend demanded me to stay over that night but i was angry and was not trying to stay at her house so i stoled my keys from her and drove off. it was a 15 min. drive to my house and i blacked out all the way home and finally i crashed into a poll, i didnt hurt no one luckily!! i finish my DUI class pay my fines. after a year i decided to drink at a co-workers party on friday the 13th, i got wasted, my friends took my keys from me so i stayed the night at their house. the next morning i woke up still pretty much drunk but i took my keys from my friends pocket while he was sleeping and drove home. when i got home i got into a argument with my little sister and i punched her in the mouth!! i was shocked to see her crying and blood running down her mouth. i never ever had hit my little sis like that ever because we were always getting along and never had to fight like that ever but i guess i was still drunk from the night before and the anger had came out! i was shocked that i hit her and i felt REALLY bad, you dont even understand?? well i thought ill drive off to cool myself down but as i was driving i was cring also at the fact that i had just hit my little sis! i felt real bad i wanted to hurt myself?? just to get me back for what i did to her! i blacked out again driving 20 mins. north on the highway i got to a cliff where i thought maybe i can end this for good so i did!! i went off a 200ft. cliff... i guess like everyone said its not my time to go?? i survived!! woke up in the hospital with only 8 staples on my knee. still feeling really bad for what i did to my little sis! i guess you can say suicidal comes to my mind sometimes!! after my accident i never touched a car until now! i only had 3 beers i was totally not drunk at all we were going up 2 blocks to DENNY'S and the cops pulled us over and said i was going to slow?? i was going speed limit!! i knew the cops were in back of me but i didnt think i was drunk so i didnt care if they were in back!! i passed all the test except for the breathalizer test!! dame it!! i knew i F***ed up for good this time and i knew i was gonna get locked up for good this time too! well i guess i deserve some jail time whatever but i rather be dead then do jail time cause my life sucks anyways!! and dont feel sorry either!!

No one is yelling at you but if that is what you want. You're a jack %$$ . All you care about is yourself. I am updating what I said. DRINKING AND DRIVING KILLS OTHERS. DO YOU WANT TO BE RESPONSIBLE FOR KILLING SOMEBODY. IT IS NOT ABOUT YOURSELF IT IS ABOUT OTHERS.

I THINK A COUPLE OF YEARS IN PRISON WOULD BE GOOD FOR YOU, YOU WILL ALSO HOPEFULLY GET THE PHYCHIATRIC CARE THAT YOU TRULY NEED IN PRISON. FACE UP TO YOUR IMMATURITY AND DO NOT BE SUCH AN A$$HOLE. You have a family, you have responsibility. I know people like you and if your not careful your going to end up killing somebody else. Hopefully you do learn your lesson and hopefully you do get the counseling and phychiatric care you need. Is this yelling now. Suck it up big GIRL and make the changes in your life necessary to stop this destructive behaviour.

Joe

Hello:

You are a pitiful human being. It's not YOUR time. But you could care less if it's somebody else's time!!

You're going to sing a different tune when they put you in a cell with Big Mamma. I hope she reames you good.

excon

PS> If you want to end it for yourself, do it! But don't take anybody with you!!

Cool, this site promotes people to kill themselves now. Interesting.

Hello again, Need:

I am not this site, and I speak for myself. I stand by what I say.

excon

If you don't solve things at the source, they simply keep popping up like weeds in our gardens. I hear your pain in this.

This is an accurate and common portrayal of the many clients I encountered in my former profession-- I used to be in the recovery business. It taught me profound lessons about the difference between bad people and sick people. I have read all your other posts, Iheart, and you may have a drinking problem. Blackout drinking is a big indicator. Social drinkers and emotionally grounded people don't routinely rack up three DUI's. At the very least, if you don't think you have a drinking problem, you have some emotional difficulties that could really benefit by some professional help. Many communities have sliding scale resources to make it possible for anyone who wants help to receive it. Calling one of the listings in the front of your phone directory could be the difference between continuing on this unhappy path and finding the happy detour and taking it instead. Its up to you. Don't die over an unwillingness to seek help-- that kind of pride is a deadly and sad joke on you.

Its your call but I would advise you to contact AA. You'll find lots of people there with multiple DUI's to tell you of their experience so you can sort out what's best from people who really know. They can help you begin playing by the rules of the world. You'll find life to be very very different (better) that way. I know I did. Once you have a better operating mind, then you can, with help, sort out all the rest -- one thing at a time. This is all so much more salvagable than you are imagining. I know when I was where you are, it was unimaginable to me too.

Ignore the others here who do not understand -- they can't help it, they don't know any better (much like you in some ways).

Seek help. Its out there.

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Originally Posted by excon

Hello again, Need:

I am not this site, and I speak for myself. I stand by what I say.

excon

Point taken. If you were near her would you kill her yourself?

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Originally Posted by NeedKarma

Point taken. If you were near her would you kill her yourself?

Hello again, Need:

If you were near a homosexual, would you drop your pants?

excon

iiheart -

I am not here for the law portion.

First, you need to get on your hands and knees and thank God, that you did not hurt or kill somebody or yourself.

Next, you are in desperate need of rehab. Big time. No execuses, nothing.

Every life that God creates is worth living and has a purpose. You need to straighten up and find yours.

If jail is in the future, buckle up and face it.

You can not, can not have ANY alcohol and drive. Period.

You are as blessed and as special as the next person and you are unique for who you are.
You can change your life. You are now 20 years old and in charge. What happens from today on is all a result of the choices YOU make.

Turn this around. Oh I am beyond not happy that you have 3 DUI's. And you probably drove while under the influence many more times than that but got caught 3 times.

You better take these words seriously. What if a drunk driver killed your sister? How would you feel.

It is one of the most selfish acts a person can do, is to drink and then get behind the wheel.

There are zero excuses.

I do still have faith in you though and I have hope. You better too.

Face the penalties of your actions and take control of your life.

Pick up the phone and find out about rehab. Do it today. There is so much help out there for you, but you have got to reach out for it.

Again, what if someone had killed your sister? How would you feel?

Now, I offer you a hug to support you in hopes you find your way. Please get some help.

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Originally Posted by excon

Hello again, Need:

If you were near a homosexual, would you drop your pants?

excon

Holy strawman Batman! I'm not the one who advocated her death.