I'm in a lesbian relationship, and me and my girlfriend don't know what to do about sex and toys because we are new at this.

Hello J:

If it doesn't come natural to you, maybe you're not a lesbian.

excon

Have you researched and discovered things you WANT to try?

Depending on first what your ages are. Being lesbian at 13 is not the same as it is at 20, as to what you should be doing.

But you do what you enjoy,

excon is right... if you need guidance on how to do it, you're likely not a lesbian.

I disagree. Being gay isn't to do with an attraction to the opposite sexes genitals, It's that you just happen to be connected in that emotional way with someone that's the same gender. Sex is only one part of a relationship. I love my boyfriend but we don't go at it every week.

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Originally Posted by DaniCalifornia

I disagree. Being gay isn't to do with an attraction to the opposite sexes genitals.

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Hello D:

And I disagree with you. Yes, women make emotional connections first. But, I'm not buying that you didn't know what felt good LONG before you could verbalize about it. And, you'd KNOW that another girl HAD those same feelings. And, if you were actually attracted to her, you'd KNOW what to touch, and how to touch it.

excon

If this person were straight and posted she didn't know what to do, how to have sex, I'd suggest that perhaps she's a lesbian.

A lesbian posting this makes me think there's a strong emotional attachment to another woman, not necessarily a sexual connection.

Or the OP is a troll and just wants to see how graphic "we" will get.

Spidey senses tingling.

I just see a lot of people in happy healthy relationships - Gay or straight - that just have some struggles when it comes to sex. Doesn't mean they're doing it wrong. I didn't have a clue what to do with a bloke until I tried and tested! It took me a year and a half before I gave myself to my first when I was 18. I find vaginas beautiful, but I'm not a lesbian

Maybe it is a woman 'feeling' thing. Haha.

Judy - I don't think it's a troll, they had to go on the internet to post this, and there are a lot of *Ahem* good websites out there. Haha

Yes, "ahem."

Jackielyn, how 'new' at 'this' are you? Are you asking about sex in general or wanting information about adult toys and their usage?

I think I need some clarification of what you are asking and how old you both are? Do either of you have any experience with sex of any type? Do you masturbate or view/use erotica?

To give proper advice, we need to have some understanding of your background and experience.