My wife and I have arranged to have a threesome with a guy we've met. We're wondering how to get things going on that night. Is it a good idea to watch an adult film whilst having a drink, and how do we make the first move?

We're both looking forward to the night, and don't want to mess it up. What should she wear on the night etc.

Thanks, Tony.

Have you discussed rules, expectations and limits ahead of time as a group? If not, then THAT is how you start your evening.

As for what she wears... whatever she wants.

Don't drink too much. Ensure contraception is used. Discuss fully what you are both expecting from the experience. And make sure you know for certain this is what you want.