I'm over my life, never had good friends. I am 16, a guy. People always made fun of me, I'm guessing because I'm odd. Girls ignore me because its an obvious fact I'm unattractive.

I finally found two friends who were amazing, a boy and a girl.I fell in love with the girl but never told her, and now my other friend is with her. I am unimportant to these people, being around them when they're so happy together kills me more and more every time I see them.

So I'm trying to think of how to kill myself because its really obvious I don't have a future or anything. What's the best way to kill yourself? I've tried pills but it didn't work, and I can't get my hands on a gun.

I hate to tell you this, and it's been said before, only cowards seek fhe easy way out, choose to end it. It really is a cop out. Do you not see there are other ways. You can make your situation better by trying to be the person you want to be, then everything will change for you.

16, life has not even started, Real life is not high school, and only kids worry about looks. Get a taste of real life, ( does not help now but for latter) go to Walmart, look at couples coming in, no matter how fat, or how ugly or how hairly or how tattooed or how anything, they normally have a partner. Even in college it changes, while yes that start foot ball player in college still gets his dates, the nerds do also, because guess what, the good looking girls know that those nerds will be the future attorneys, or doctors or engineers making the big bucks.

I was that nerd in high school, but re-invented myself in college and went on to have a wonder love life and a couple great careers.

Even as a old man, with a limp, one blind eye and really nothing to look at, guess what, I found a married a girl about 15 years younger who had been a college cheer leader.

Honestly looks mean very little in real adult life. It is who you are as a person.

HI,

You write what so many young people are feeling. Taking your life is never the answer. You can be amazed at how things can change in 3 months, 6 months, even next week. You just never know what or who life will bring your way. Sometimes you have to seek it out, even if it means stepping out of your comfort zone.

What are something's you like to do; what are you interested in? Anything you could get involved in at school that would go along with your interests? Do you have career ideas of things you would like to do? As was said, high school can be rough, but things can change so much after high school.

Are you able to work part-time now or do some volunteer work? Some people find it is easier to meet new people and develop friendships at work instead of school. You could help kids at an elementary school who struggle in reading or math, for example. You could help with animals at a local shelter. You could be good company for elderly at a local nursing home.

Ever notice another kid at school who doesn't seem to make friends easily? Who seems to hang out alone or sits in the back of the class and doesn't speak to anyone? Have you ever tried to start up a conversation? Give it a try. And keep trying with anyone you see. Sure it can be uncomfortable, but push through that. Take that first step... once you do that a few times, it will get easier.

Talk to your school counselor, or a parent about how you are feeling. And keep talking about it. Sometimes you have to speak up, several times, before you are heard. People tend to get caught up in their own lives and problems.

Write down the things you like to do or have an interest in. Computers, music, the outdoors, animals, writing, reading, sports, cars, travel, cooking, space, science, history, movies, etc. There are so many directions you could go with different interests. Having something to work towards, and getting together with other people who have the same interest, can help tremendously. Check out online forums that deal with your interests. You can get to know different people that way. I've know many friends, and even couples, who have met just from chatting online in a forum where they shared a common interest. One was even for Star Wars fans! Even here... if you can answer some of the questions on some different topics that you have knowledge of or are interested in, that would be a big help. Look through the different topics on see where you can help out. You might find posts in the teen, middle school, or high school sections that you can help with, or any of the categories that you have an interest in.

The point is, there is so much more out there than the people who made fun of you. They don't decide who you are, or your worth, you get to do that! They mean nothing in the scheme of things. They will just be stepping stones in your past as you work towards your future.

When you have some ideas of what you are interested in, come back here and share them with us. We have so many different people here, from different backgrounds, and we would love to help you as you move forward.

You already took the first step... you came here and shared some of your thoughts. Now come back and share what your dreams and goals are. We'll be waiting for you... :)

Life is not easy. Most of us don't get the job we want, the boyfriend/girlfriend we want, the popularity status we want, etc.

What has caused you to feel the way you do, are the same feelings and thoughts and experiences that all of us have to face. For some, it is a rough go in high school, for others, college, for yet others, marriage, and relationships. Jobs and careers are disappointments for many.

But that is life, and you are barely out of the starting gate at age 16. What you are going through now is 'seasoning', and learning the hard way (like all of us do), and in gaining experience, you better learn how to cope with much bigger problems. We aren't born with a playbook- we write our own, and that is based on experiences.

There will be more, and different friends, through each year of high school, and then during college, and then with the people you meet when you start on your own. Each will bring something to the table that you will be better able to judge, simply based on what you have lived through before.

This isn't about getting a girlfriend, or having a lot of friends. It's about finding your way, and learning that nothing is guaranteed to go your way, and for most of us, it doesn't. Especially in high school. You are not the only 16 year old who has been faced with disastrous disappointment in the 'love' department, or any other department.

Give yourself time to really think about this. Because you don't have a string of disappointments, or successes as far as that goes, because of your age, there isn't much to draw on, but, each time you live through a disappointment to survive another day will make the next disappointment, easier.

Find your strengths, instead of your weaknesses, and be proud of yourself for being able to identify why you feel the way you do. Know that the pain will pass, and other possibilities will come your way, and you will be that much stronger in order to deal with them.

Before you do anything drastic, talk to some one, parents, school counsellor, or a responsible trusted adult. Even a pastor, so you can share your feelings and get help, and guidance to better things.

Reach out for guidance when times are tough, NOT ending your life.