Ok so here is my story I have what I believe to be a medeling mother inlaw .Please let me know your opinions on this matter.So me and my wife just had the birth of our first child a little boy .From the start we said no one in the room during labor.During the last couple days leading up to birth we decieded to let our mothers be in the room .My mom is no problem she stayed out of the way and took pictures like we asked.My wife's mom did not this was suppose to be about me and my wife and our new baby but her mom got on the phone during labor and deleivery and also motioned to a cousin to go ahead and come in the room right in the middle of labor.We told our moms specificly just them and that we viewed this as a gift we were giving them,Really rubbed me the wrong way that she saw it OK to do those things.Further more my family the new grandpas inperticular waited for 4-5 hrs to see this little man only to have her mother act on ourbehalf with out our permission letting in cousins and her aunts and uncles right after the birth .In my opinion the new grandpas who had waited all that time should have been the first to see baby and when we were ready.medeling mother inlaw walked the cousins and aunt/uncles right bye my family without a word into our room.My mother inlaw seems to be a bit oblivious to our wishes in most manners.Dont get me wrong I love my mother inlaw and all of her family but to not respect us as a family really bothers me I have brought this up with my wife but she just gets stressed out because its her mom .How do I handle this respecfully