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  • Mar 25, 2012, 09:11 PM
    luckyme0
    Baby mama drama
    What's your opinion on a baby mama sending pictures to the child's father when he currently has a girlfriend?
  • Mar 25, 2012, 09:25 PM
    J_9
    Sending pictures of what or whom?
  • Mar 26, 2012, 03:41 AM
    ScottGem
    Umm if the pictures are of his child, even if the mother is in them, I see no problem.
  • Mar 26, 2012, 12:03 PM
    luckyme0
    The mother of his child just sends him pictures of her and his son. I just don't see why she has to do that it should be just about the son?There's more to it too, like she has tried getting him back and using their son against him to make him feel guilty once she realized he was happy and moving on.
  • Mar 26, 2012, 12:34 PM
    ScottGem
    There may be other issues, but I see nothing wrong about sending pictures of the son that include the mother. Maybe she's doing on purpose. But if you are so insecure in this relationship, that this bothers you, maybe its time you moved on.
  • Mar 26, 2012, 01:39 PM
    luckyme0
    Oh no it has nothing to do with being insecure at all its just what she's done in the past. I don't have any kids myself so I just wanted someone's opinion. Thanks for your feedback.
  • Mar 26, 2012, 01:58 PM
    Cat1864
    How does the father feel about the pictures? Has he ever asked her to limit the pictures she includes with her in them? Is she the one who taking the pictures?

    For the girlfriend/current interest, there isn't much she can do other than accept it or move on. The father of the child is the one who has to decide what the boundary line is and make it clear to the mother. It is his business and he needs to take care of it. If he suspects that she is using the pictures as a way to get her toe in the door, then he needs to shut the door before her whole foot is inside. But he has to make that determination.

    Personally, I would explain my concerns to him once about my observations then I would let him take care of the issue in any way that he sees fit. I would not allow myself to be put in the middle of his problem.
  • Mar 26, 2012, 02:14 PM
    mmresd
    Pictures of both of them together is completely normal. Now the only issue I really see, is that you know about them? Maybe we need to work on your insecurities and self esteem and not be so concern about someone else's privacy...
  • Mar 26, 2012, 02:56 PM
    ScottGem
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by luckyme0 View Post
    Oh no it has nothing to do with being insecure at all its just what shes done in the past. I don't have any kids myself so I just wanted someones opinion. Thanks for your feedback.

    Your actions speak louder than your words. If you were secure in your relationship you would not be bothered by the mother sending pictures of his son and herself.

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