So I have been dating my boyfriend for a year now and we have been through so much. In the beginning of the relationship he would do anything for me and do anything to hangout with me. He started to not want to hang out with me, and when he does, It's just to watch movies on Netflix. That's cool and all but I also ask him to go out and eat or go look around town with me, and his answer Is always "I don't want to do any of that with you because I have to pay for everything" and I've offered to pay for my own every time.

Then his friends will ask him to go do the same thing and he will be more than willing. His excuses are different every time It's either "You don't like to do guy stuff" "I have to pay for you" Then when I finally get him to go out and do something with me, his friend will call and say "Lets play streetfighter" then he'll rush home as soon as he can and forget about the rest of the day with me.

He also says "you don't let me do what I want" when he does whatever he wants anytime he wants no matter If It hurts my feelings.. Then when I want to do whatever I want he tries to control me and say I can't. I tried to talk to him about this plenty of times and he just tries to turn It around on me and say I'm the problem. He even broke up with me once, got drunk talked to a lot of girls then begged for me back, and still thinks there's nothing wrong with that. I truly feel like I'm being emotionally abused with him playing with my feelings. I love him and I just don't know what to do.

Don let him treat you like a 2nd class citizen,, u know you deserve a lot more,, if he can't give you what you deserve, then he is not worth your love...

If you can't communicate and sort out the problems you have,you don't have much of a relationship.

How old are you?

He will treat you like crap as long as you tolerate it. There have been no consequences when he acts up, and you have taken him back, so why should he change?

Do you love this guy more than you love yourself? If you do, stop that crap and stand up for yourself.

Stop allowing bad behavior, and treatment by him no matter what.

If you keep putting up with such behavior he'll keep on doing it. Why will he stop?
Tell him you won't tolerate such a nonsense.

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Originally Posted by amicon

If you can't communicate and sort out the problems you have,you don't have much of a relationship.

How old are you?

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That's true, you're completely right, thank you. I'm 19 by the way

He does this because you allow it, you tell him to get ready you are doing this or that, if he says no, you ask him to leave and tell him you are going on your own.

He does this because you are allowing him to

Discuss it with him and see what response you get. Then you will know whether this is a relationship that you want to continue with.

Don't let him treat you that way, you can do better.

Get rid of him trust me he will never change you deserve better. Ive dated someone like this an learned from it an also learned that there is faer better guys out there that want to hang out with me enjoy my time an wouldn't think twice about paying for me.. an they treat you wayyyy better It will be hard to let him go but in time you will be much happier trust me... good luck :)

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Originally Posted by Alwaysgetshurt

Get rid of him trust me he will never change you deserve better. Ive dated someone like this an learned from it an also learned that there is faer better guys out there that want to hang out with me enjoy my time an wouldnt think twice about paying for me.. an they treat you wayyyy better It will be hard to let him go but in time you will be much happier trust me...good luck :)

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Thanks a lot! ((: I will do that!

My boyfreind is kind of the same way. I want a lot of time with him and whenever we are not together, he goes right to his friend I feel like when were not together, I'm second priority. He always tells me when he is hanging out with his friends and sometimes ill be like no this is our time and there cutting into it but he doesn't seem to care. He just wants to make everyone happy but he is hurting me

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Originally Posted by Mandie 11

my boyfreind is kinda the same way. i want a lot of time with him and whenever we r not together, he goes right to his friend i feel like when were not together, im second priority. he always tells me when he is hanging out with his freinds and sometimes ill be like no this is our time and there cutting into it but he doesnt seem to care. he just wants to make everyone happy but he is hurting me

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I totally understand.. he did this to me. What made it even worse is that his friend was the one taking his time which was ruining our relationship, which made me think his friend was disrespectful for doing so. He treated his friend more of a girlfriend than me. The only thing you can do if you don't want to break up is just find ways to make yourself busy and seem less available... then he'll realize he's missing his time with you.