Moved to its own question.




Me and my girl have been together for 8 months, and while we were dating she texted this guy she works with, and flirts with him. She know it bugs me, said she stopped flirting, but I know she still does because I've seen texts. When I kind of bring it up, she flips out on me, and says something totally different than what it is. But she still says she loves me, and that I'm the only guy, and I don't want to lose her, because I love her so much.

I don't think you should confront her, or sweat the competition at all guy, so put up the strong front and enjoy the love while you have it, and keep your girl interested by being the guy who is fun and not insecure.

I don't know what the texts are about, or if its just her nature to flirt over texts, or if they are just text buddies, but for sure arguing over texts is a waste of time and a turn off. If you are having insecurities, and trust issues, after just 8 months, then your love is not reasonable or healthy, and you have to shake those feelings, or make a decision to move on.

If your attitude is not about dating and having fun getting to know this stranger and her ways then this relationship is clearly not for you, OR you are in this a lot more seriously than she is. That in itself is a problem you need to back up from and see facts more clearly so you can make a better decision. About your thoughts and actions.

How does she treat you besides the texting? I would never give my heart to someone that doesn't deserve it, or know what to do about it, and make darn sure she makes you the same priority that you make her.

Or what's the point?

Tell her how you feel.

If you don't trust her, if she is texting this guy and lying to you about it, why are you still with her. Love is sometimes not enough. If you are with someone who does not respect you and treats you poorly, love does not mean squat!

Let me tell you my story: Been with my girlfriend for 8 months, from the get-go she told me that, 4 months before we met, she broke up with her ex of 2 years. She said they still talked and he needs her in his life, that hed verbally abuse her, but she could "never go back to him" and I've got "nothing to worry about". I told her I trusted her, if she says nothing'd happen then nothing'd happen. Well, last month we got back from a week in Cabo where I told her I love her, she said it back. A week after we got back, I found out she'd been sleeping with her ex the first 5 months we were together, going to him whenever we had a fight. Lesson: Put your ing foot down before it bites you in the . Give her an ultimatum, and if she won't respond, dump her before you get hurt like I did.

Stop looking at your girlfriend's texts, lesson learned. If you can't bring yourself to trust her again, then it is time to move on.