We are 2 gay women.. We met about 8 months ago had an instant attraction, but she was engaged. She did break up from her a while later cause she fell out of love with her. We started seeing each other.. Its been 3 months now. But now she is saying we have to break it off cause she feels too guilty as she wants to have a friendship with her ex. She met her ex last night and told me there are feelings there but she isn't sure what they are.

She says she loves me but we have to break all contact. She said not to give up on her and this isn't the end.. But why does it feel it is?
She also says that I am questioning her too much. But surely I have a right to know where I stand don't I?
I am so heartbroken I haven't been able to go to work and leave the house. I'm a mess. What should I do?

Oh and about 4 weeks ago she was saying how I am the one and she has never felt this way about anyone before and she wants to go traveling with me etc..

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Originally Posted by amyftw29

She said not to give up on her and this isn't the end.. But why does it feel it is?.

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Because it is the end. It sounds to me like this was a quick, rebound relationship.

She jumped into a new relationship too quickly. She never healed from her last break-up.

There's nothing you can really do to save it. Just break-off all contact and move on.

But even now she is saying its not over and its been a week or so since we limited contact

Today though she said " im going to have time for me now and put myself first" and I asked if I could see her and she said no

Why is it she just won't end it?

But I don't understand why she just don't end it?

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Originally Posted by amyftw29

But i dont understand why she just dont end it?

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She won't explicitly cut her ties with you because she wants options, her motive is 100% selfish. If her ex-girlfriend rejects her, she still has you to fall back on. Conversely, if her ex takes her back, you'll be history. Your role in her life is conditional.

Essentially, you're Plan B, when you should be Plan A.

So, make the decision for her, and you end it. You will save yourself much pain later if you end all contact with her now.

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But now she is saying we have to break it off cause she feels too guilty as she wants to have a friendship with her ex. She met her ex last night and told me there are feelings there but she isn't sure what they are.

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She says she loves me but we have to break all contact.

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Today though she said " im going to have time for me now and put myself first" and I asked if i could see her and she said no

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She sounds to me like she has ended it several times but you are determined NOT TO LISTEN!

Things seem pretty simple, nothing there should be creating any confusion whatsoever... she had ended the relationship, accept it, and start moving on.