I was married 21 years, my husband said he was always working. I was alone in the marriage. He never shared the same closet with me, I never saw any of his paychecks, but he always took my pay, and I had no money. He was cheating on me, bringing home something he collected from a dirty women. He was also cheating with a women he worked with.

He divorced me for her, he had lupus, and I always cleaned the house of germs because of his auto immune disease, and cooked so he would have his nutrician.

The girl friend from what I was told only wanted to drink, smoke, gamble and not do any house work. He lived with the girl in his house for 3 years, and got lukemia, and died 8 months later. But within the last week he lived he asked his mother if he was wrong to leave me. Why do you think he asked that question,his mother said he asked it out of the blue and for 24 years now it has bothered me.

I would have to say my dear, count your blessings you are well rid of him and don't look back just move forward with your life and I hope it is better now then the 21 years you were married to this man.

He probably asked that question because he had regrets and felt sorry for himself.

Hopefully it was guilty for being a lousy human being to another human being.

First why do you care and why are you talking to his mother about things like this.

Be glad he is gone.