Feeling controlled in a new relationship
I was married for 25 years, had an affair because my marriage was miserable. We got caught and my wife and I divorced. I remained friends with the woman I had an affair with and she got a divorce later. In the mean time I met another woman and was in a relationship with her and she didn't want me to be friends with the woman I had an affair with because she felt threatened. I told her we are just friends now but she says she couldn't trust me around her. I stayed distant from the woman I had an affair with because I cared about her feelings.
We broke up for after 3 years and I saw my friend again , we hooked up a couple of times , just to have good sex. I told her the affair was wrong and what we were doing is wrong. She still wants me but I told he I am just her friend. I started seeing another person about a month ago and told her everything about me and my relationships and she doesn't want me to have anything to do with the woman I had an affair with even though I told her we were just friends. She feels threatened and she told me to choose the affair woman or her. Am I right to hold my ground or should I cut the relationship with my friend I had an affair with?