Hi my name is John and in love with my straight friend we had gay sex together for about three years one night he was at his work and his girlfriend came over to his apt and he let her in while he was at work she open his computer and found email between the two of us talking dirty what we do to each other sucking and ****ing and the last email was from me that I wanted him to **** me like he does to his girlfriend Jean she saw it and called me a pervert a ****ing queer and she dumped him now he has another girlfriend and he doesn't talk or chat with me what can I do to revive our friendship without having sex involved

If he was having sex with you he is not straight, he may be bi or even gay and living a straight life style ( not uncommon)

Next you can't and don't, you leave him alone, you are his "ex" lover also and can not go back to something else.

You don't say how long ago he stopped talking or if it happened before he met the new woman. If it was before he met her, he may be feeling guilty about his behavior. That is his issue to work through.

He appears to have cheated on Jean. He may not want to put himself in a position of being tempted to cheat on his current girlfriend. She may also know about what happened with Jean and has asked that he not talk to you.

You say that you love him. Keeping in touch with him would only be giving yourself false hope that the old relationship might reoccur. Give yourself time to let him and the feelings go. Don't try to be friends while you still have strong feelings for him.

All you can do is live your life. Let go of the past and move forward.

Good luck and take care of yourself.

This is always the danger of sex between friends - someone decides no more friendship and the other still wants to be friends.

If he had sex with you he's not straight.