Hi I'm 22 and I'm in a relationship with my boyfriend for about 2years.. I always wanted to do a 3sum with him and another girl but he doesn't believe in that.. I just be feeling attracted to woman pleasing me vise-versa.. I'm faithful to him always been but when he's at work I'm masturbating with my sex toys to lesbian porn.. What should I do I even thought about being a swinger but don't know how to go about that.. If anyone can help ill appreciate it thanks:)

If you talked to your boyfriend about a Threesome (See what I did there?) and he has said no than there is really nothing you can do about it.

Also take note that fantasy is always better than reality. That is why porn and romance novels and erotica are so nice. There is never anyone just having an unfulfilled quicky, rolling over, and falling asleep. The thought of how it will go will never be quite what you think it should be.

How will it feel when your boyfriend starts plowing the third? What will that feel like? It won't just be girl on girl, I can assure you that he will want to play too. On top of that what do you think he will feel seeing someone else pleasuring his girl and maybe better than he can? There are lot of mental and emotional things that are going to happen it definitely won't be as perfect as you envision it.

I would keep to your porn and toys. Ask on occasion but don't badger him about it. Keep it alive and it might happen.

Edit: After reading another thread:
Is this the same boy that you had the other three Threesomes (See what I did there?) with? I am curious why you are dead set with having these threesomes. I get that you're bi. How did you approach your boyfriend about a threesome the previous times?

That's true what you're saying but my ex loved doing 3sums lol.. H e didn't have any problem with it.. But my current boyfriend doesn't believe in that.. But for now I guess ill stick to porn and toys like you mentioned before thanks..

Your current boyfriend is not your ex, and if this was an important part of your life, you needed to make it part of finding a boyfriend. If he does not want to then you either change boyfriends or you do nothing. If you are getting too involved in this ( you said every day) how is this now effecting your sex life with him, if you are not happy with just him?

I am not sure that unless you find the right place for this, it will destroy your relationship with this boyfriend soon.

-shrugs- find a bi woman or find a bi man.. I mean I don't know what to tell you, find someone that wants an open relationship maybe

Hell its most GUYS that want threesomes and most women don't.

But the answer is the same either way... unless the other person is 200% behind it... forget it... if you have to work hard to sell the idea... forget it. If you have to make all sorts of promises to get them to go along... forget it.

It's a path wrought with peril.


(just an FYI... I've done a few in my youth, I'm not adverse to it, but it is most certainly NOT for everyone)

Threesomes aren't all they're cut out to be. But you already know that, seeing as you've already gone down this path.

If the current boyfriend is against them, then you either accept that, respect his wishes, love him for who he is, and live with it, or you find someone that wants the same things you want.

I guess it depends. What's more important? Your relationship with this man, or threesomes?