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I was with my ex boyfriend for five years. We have been through some very hard times, due to family issues on his side. He still struggles till this day.

This man broke my heart the day he let me go. He tells me he loves me, but he is not in love with me. I have done nothing but love this man. And he is lucky, because he has no family. I have let him put me through a lot. He knows he has hurt me a year on, AND I STILL LOVE HIM. I Don't KNOW WHY WHEN HE TELLS ME HE LOVES ME, BUT HE IS NOT IN LOVE WITH ME. PEOPLE TELL HIM THAT HE WILL NEVER FIND ANOTHER WITH a heart like me. But he doesn't care.

He treats me like nothing. His mates are more important plus, he drinks a lot. Now he never use to. When I met up with him, he told me he didn't love me. But I told him he did love me, and that all the drinking, and sleeping around is a cover up. To not feel the pain of not having me around when I told him this, I could see he wanted to cry, but held it in. Why is he afraid to ADMIT HE LOVES ME?

Stop fooling yourself into thinking he feels about you the way you do about him. He does NOT, as you are far more committed than he is and he has taken all that you have given. You must accept this, so you can heal and move on and stop accepting the way he has been treating you.

You gave your heart to one that doesn't deserve it, appreciates it, or know what to do with it. Take it back, and stop allowing yourself to be dogged out, or put at risk because of his issues, and behavior.

Take back your heart, as you have already spent 5 years to get nothing in return, and you deserve better.

Its obiouse you love him but he doesn't what I think you should do is let him go don't make contact with him if he does love you but he just doesn't know it. Bhe has to find out for himself

thank you for your reply you are right in what you say talaniman. I know he doesn't deserve my love
I do hate him very much. This man doesn't deserve to be happy but hey I don't want to love him I guess it's the fact
of giving so much for five years and only to find out I was used kills me to the point were I can't understand it all why would a man give up the one important thing. All I keep thinking everyday days oh is he out drinking is he with this girl that girl it makes me feel ugly x but there is nothing in this world that I would love than to move on

Eventually, if you stay away from him, you will begin to feel better, and be better. Time to let your wounds heal, and build a life that you enjoy without this drunk in it.

He has straight up told you that he is not in love with you. Your obsession is making you ignore this and keeps your hopes up falsely into believing something different. Stop chasing someone that clearly does not want to be with you, it is time to move on.

And don't think that you were used, maybe at some point he did have those feelings and had other expectations from your relationship together, but as of right now... it is clear he is done with this relationship.