Hey I am 39 years old~ I am emailing and texting/talking to a 21 year old girl.. We get along great, she is not a player nor am I.. Her parents are two years older than me. She won't tell them, and I don't blame her. But everyday we fall more and more in love mutually.. I could be satisfied forever with her, and she is content on someone taking care of her and staying w her forever. Am I in the wrong anyway? All of her friends are players and that's y she doesn't date them.. Thanks a lot for your honest opinion ~

There seems to be a lot of age gap, but as long as you guys are at the same emotional level, it shouldn't be an issue.

The point that she wouldn't tell her parents, is understandable. I say enjoy each others company but don't take things too fast.

You are almost 40, and you can't meet your girlfriends parents?

How did you meet this girl, and how long have you been talking to her? Was it by accident that you discovered you were talking to a 21 year old?

Are you seriously considering a lifetime commitment from a 21 year old girl?

This sounds very, very inappropriate to me. Just my opinion, but I don't see how you could nurture a relationship with a 21 year old, in secret, without even her parents knowing about it. Her parents would object, so would her friends, and no doubt your own friends (if they know) would be questioning why you would be cyberdating a 21 year old.

If this is the age group that you find your women in, and not in your own peer group, I'd say your own doubts are justified.

I don't know both of you but I think you should wait for both of you to meet and spend time together before deciding anything because talking online/email really can be misleading and you might think that you are in love when you like the excitement of talking to someone you don't know! I can't tell if your in the right or wrong way but first meet up then let us know how it goes... good luck.