Can a man find in online chatting or cybersex more pleasure than having an intimate relationship with his wife? Can a man not makelove with his wife for one year without any reasons?

Not making love with the wife for one year without reasons, How do you know this if there is no communication. Maybe there are reasons that you are not aware off.

Do I think this is normal not really but you need to seek counseling and this needs to be brought up to your partner. I can not really say too much because you did not really give too much information to work with.

Joe

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Originally Posted by amour66us

Can a man find in online chatting or cybersex more pleasure than having an intimate relationship with his wife?

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Yes he can, and women can too. These are people who have sexual or intimacy problems who are probably not conscious about it. All they know is self arousal is easier than shared arousal and trust me, online is hardly shared-- its simply interactive to some degree and that makes it quite different than, say, ordinary porn while still not being real. Many people mistake it as real, in more ways than sexual too. Real has much different conditions, and they may lack what it takes to negotiate those conditions. They need the distance that is created by it being not in person. It certainly allows them a greater sense of control about it. That he is forgoing sex with a live, red blooded woman is not surprising. It's a bit like the shop lifter who is discovered stealing with more than enough money in their pocket, if you will. If he was lacking satisfaction from the cybersex, he would be seeking it where he could find it. Its either that or he is using this as a means to find his next real-life partner. This is probably going to require professional help to change it, is my guess.

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Originally Posted by amour66us

Can a man find in online chatting or cybersex more pleasure than having an intimate relationship with his wife? can a man not makelove with his wife for one year without any reasons?

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Well that is just messed up I think sorry

It is an addiction. Just like any addiction the person can get hooked on one thing and the others become meaningless and/or dull. Like if a person smokes weed and then they end up doing crack the weed is about useless to them.
Basically the porn is desensitizing him in a way.