I have been dating my boyfriend for nearly 2 years . A year has passed he has a best friend who is a girl. However recently they hang a lot a lot in college. He bunks and sits alone with her in class. She even chats with him and sends him the 'kiss' emoticon. I confronted and asked him whether he loves her he said that she is just his best friend. He thinks I'm insecure and has stopped talking to me and is always with her. Its been two months now. What to do? Help

You learn to respect his friendship, or you just move on.

Stop being jealous, and insecure, or feeling threatened. Why have you not befriended her yourself? Maybe that's the real problem after two years.

Are you saying that during most of the two years you've been together, he had never contacted her? Is this a recent development?

I get that this "friendship" has started within the last year, right? And you say he "bunks" with her... does that mean he sleeps with her, or at least supposedly in the same room? Now you two haven't talked for two months? If I am reading and understanding this correctly then it looks to me like he's found someone else. Maybe you should too and just move on.

Ya it's a recent development

Kate Rose,

I first welcome you to this wonderful and beautiful site!

Nothing new or unusual, and do not worry. Time is no doubt a great healer, but you must also learn to have self-respect and dignity for you. Why pondering over that person, if he has moved on to someone else? You too have your own rights. If he does not care for you, why you? If he does not give importance to you, why you do it to him? After all, you are a whole, perfect and complete person. There are plenty of boys, who might be looking up to you for friendship and all. If he throws kisses at 'her' and even goes or hangs about with her and even bunks classes so that they can be together, just forget him. Still, if he is so so so important for you, talk to him once, but as far as I could make out from your writing, I find that it is your first (or at the most, second) love (affair) and so you are not used to such shocks, or shockers. Just learn to flow with the swim of life. Men are of various hues and colours. Good luck!

I have been in a relation with my boyfriend for 2 yrs. However recently he says I have hurted him . He ignored me for two months. So my best friend asked him why he is doing this he said he wants to break up but did not give her any reason. He told my best friend to tell me to move on and don't cry and be sad and he doesn't want to talk to me and its over. If he wants to breakup why can't he come and tell me and give the reason? Am I so bad that I don't deserve a closure? What should I do? I love him so much

After being ignored for two months, its safe to say he has no intention of giving you closure, or answers to your questions. I get you still have feelings, but you considered it dead already, and focus on the healing, not the drama and confusion.

How old are you both? Maybe he is just an inexperienced coward. Or an arsehole!