My girlfriend and I have been together for about 2.5 years now. We love each other very much and mean a lot to each other, however I feel that we may not be right for each other.

Here's the deal. We fight constantly, and I mean CONSTANTLY about EVERYTHING. The dishes, old problems in our relationship from 2 years ago. Just REALLY stupid stuff. Constant tension and discontent is a good way to describe our home. We are supposed to be getting married soon and it seems like things get worse the closer we get. It's not stress over the wedding it feels more like a sign. Here's a summary of the last few months events and please let me know what you think. Am I over reacting? Am I underreacting? Should I have left long ago? I usually have answers for everything but I'm beyond lost here. Listen to my head, heart,.

In the last 6 weeks we've fought more than ever, I've caught her texting and facebooking her ex of two years 3 months before we're supposed to be married, we got in a huge fight which resulted in me being pushed from behind followed by me yelling about it, which resulted in a slap across my face. The 3rd time she has slapped me.

What do I do? Try and work it out, or bring the good times with me and move on?

Do me a favor... read what you just wrote.

You two love each other very much yet argue all the time and she has hit you 3 times?

Did you know, that abuse isn't only abuse if a man does it? There are some women that abuse as well and I have to say that pushing and slapping from her is abuse. I'm going to guess that this situation isn't going to get any better on its own and will probably just get worse.

You two need counseling at the very least. If it had been me that was getting pushed and slapped, I would just call it quits and move on.

WOW dude, you have had a preview of life with her, and you still want to get married? I hope you love each other enough to get some outside help, and guidance before the wedding, and be warned, it may take a year or two before you see some positive results. Is it even worth the effort?

If not, run now, or forever hold your peace. On second thought, once there is violence, remove yourself from the situation permanently, before one of you really hurts the other physically.

Getting married will not be a magic wand that will suddenly make the arguing stop. There is no 'before' and 'after' as far as things being one way before you marry, and another after you marry. Being married, will not change the essential relationship.

That being said, it is not unreasonable to think that the two of you can learn how to manage your anger toward each other, or that you can't learn how to argue productively. Not all of us are born with the ability to communicate our needs and wants effectively. When issues are not resolved, and patterns are not changed, you can't expect some bolt of lightening will suddenly hit, and you will have the skills you need to solve problems within the relationship.

That she slapped you is also not something that cannot be addressed. All that tells me from what you said in your post, is that the argument was very heated, you did not just walk away before it got out of control, and she has now escalated her anger, into a push and a slap.

All signs of a relationship going down the tube without some serious intervention. That is, if the two of you are willing to get yourselves into counselling.

What will happen if you don't, is not only more of the same, but less of what keeps you together. Fewer good conversations, fewer opportunities to learn and grow together, enjoy your lives, and live with confidence in each other that no matter what happens, you can work it out.

'Working it out' isn't bailing. You have a flat tire on your car and do you keep driving until all four tires are flat? Or do you get to a garage, and fix the problem, and move on your way.

If you make the choice to stay, you can expect more, because people who do not effectively communicate together, will only get more and more frustrated. Things linger and feelings get worse, anger comes in different forms- i.e. the slap and push, and the violence will increase, not decrease, as it is a new weapon along the path of destruction.

Please get help.

This is not love, you may like or love the sex, you may lust after her body, but this is not love, unless you have a warped idea of what it is.

You need to open your eyes, leave the abusive woman alone. She couldn't care less about you if she tried.