He still keeps her things just as she left them, he keeps sending her emails about how our relationship is like. He says he doesn't say he doesn't love her anymore, he just says I shouldn't worry because she is just a friend. What do you think, does he love me or her?

I have no idea. Maybe she is just a friend. How do you know he sends her emails?

Unless there are children between them, I see no reason why he should be so friendly with her, and keep her in the picture by having her things out, just as she left them.

My guess is that over a 13 year period, there have been other women he's seen that wonder the same thing.

If he was with her for a long time, he will or may love her for the rest of his life in some ways. But in different ways,

Some bonds are difficult to break. She might be just a close friend. Apart from this are there any other issues in your relationship? Is there some other kind of dissatisfaction too?

I still contact my ex and I've been married for 16 years, with my husband for 22 years. My ex and I are good friends, email each other, get together when he's in town. It is possible to be friends with an ex.

Your jealousy is something you have to come to terms with. He's not hiding this from you, he's told you how he feels about you and about her. You either trust him, or you let him go. If you continue the jealousy then you'll be the reason for the end of this relationship. The ex has nothing to do with it, she's just a friend.

How long have you been with him?