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  • Mar 1, 2012, 03:25 AM
    nouree
    My boyfriend is angry with me?
    I had an exam today and we were not informed at what time will it get over,it started at 10 and was over at 2... at 2 I saw my phone and saw a missed call from my boyfriend and a message saying that **** you I know your exam was over at 1 go away from my life or tell me the truth where were you from 1 o clock. But I was in the exam hall only I didn't lie to him as soon as I saw his message I called him back but he said I won't talk to you till the time you tell me the truth .but there is nothing to say I cried so much I tried to make him understand that you can confirm it but all in vain he's not talking to me now I'm feeling so bad I didn't do anything wrong please help me I'm dying
  • Mar 1, 2012, 06:55 AM
    odinn7
    He sounds like he enjoys controlling you and doesn't want to trust you. Do you really want someone like that in your life? I mean really... 1 hour and he's flipping out on you? Forget about him, let him flip out on someone else. His behavior isn't going to get any better. Next thing he'll be telling you who you can have as friends and where you can go and when. Dump him and soon enough you will find someone else who treats you better.
  • Mar 1, 2012, 10:53 PM
    Lavender45
    I think he sounds like an a$$. I get that you love him, but he seems disrespectful, and very controlling, if he got mad over that then he'll probably threaten your relationship on many other things in the future that are equally as silly and it likely won't last long. That's how I feel, that is... unless he has a reason to wonder where you are...
  • Mar 3, 2012, 07:09 AM
    nouree
    Oddin I have been in a relation with this guy for 3 yrs now and you know what he already tells me who I can be friends with and when can I go out I mean I'm not allowed to go out without him ,but on the other side he loves me a lot I mean comes early in the morning to meet me and stays with me the whole day if I want anything he will do anything to get it I mean he's very caring but yes he's very controlling and I tried a lot to get over this relation I mean a lot but I'm not able to go away from him I want him to realize that I'm important to him and I want that he should treat me nicely and trust me can you help me in this:)
  • Mar 3, 2012, 08:03 AM
    odinn7
    Sadly there isn't much that can be done. You can talk to him about it all and see if he understands and starts treating you better but... in my experience, someone who controls so much about you already is going to just get worse in the future. 3 years and he already says who you can hang out with and when. The bad part here is that you allow him to do this by putting up with it.

    Has he started hitting you yet? That sometimes comes along with someone that is a controller.
  • Mar 3, 2012, 12:06 PM
    JoeCanada76
    Why are you feeling bad because of an obsessed, emotional, abuser? You did nothing wrong yet you are made to feel guilty about something that is out of you're control.

    You need to say F--- you back and never contact me again if you can not treat me better. This person is a controlling, nasty, hateful creature that you are better off not having around you..

    If you stick around or try to get this person back you are just asking for abuse to escalate to the point of physical abuse, if like other posters mentioned could have already started? Maybe?
  • Apr 23, 2012, 09:17 PM
    nouree
    Am getting pissed
    Guys I have been in a relation frm past 3 years now.my boyfriend used to call me everyday and at night we used to talk.but nowadays he hardly calls I know there is no other girl and he's not busy with his work or anything I wait the whole night but he doesn't call .I want him to call me like bfr and give me more importance please help what to do?
  • Apr 23, 2012, 09:20 PM
    none12345
    You are too needy. Other people have things to do other than call you every night at a certain time and what if he is tired of that and wants you to call him for a change. Try to understand that the world does not surround you.
  • Apr 23, 2012, 09:20 PM
    Wondergirl
    Guys don't like to talk on the phone like girls do. If you want endless phone convos, call a girlfriend. Guys DO stuff, take ACTION, not talk and talk and talk. He is perfectly normal and it has nothing to do with how he feels about you.
  • Apr 23, 2012, 10:16 PM
    talaniman
    After putting both you post together, he is a control freak, and you are insecure, and needy.

    What you both need to do is talk and work out an agreement that works for you both, about calling and such. If the only way you communicate is through threats and punishment, and ignoring each other, you don't have a relationship, you have hostile dependency.

    Work together, or work apart!
  • Apr 27, 2012, 03:41 PM
    mmresd
    Really? You called to apologize for doing NOTHING wrong.

    You need to have some self respect for yourself, drop the @$$hole and move on, there is nothing good a kid like that can offer. It is time to move on, take his advise and never talk to him again. Why stick around to someone who is so insecure about himself, he won't even listen to you to explain why in HIS mind, you were cheating on him, while you are trying to do something good with your life.

    Leave. You are better off alone.

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