Ok I'm 25 year old girl and I'm intensely in love with my 29 year old girlfriend and she is not afraid to remind me of how in love she is with me but with every relationship there are problumes and having sex is huge I have a much higher sex drive then she dose and it's a problume but she wount leave me and I can't stand Being with out her and this problume is killing us both now we just don't have sex often but I want to want her to want me as much as I know I want her so if we are both going to continue in this relationship I want to know how to stop the urge I having sex with her if at all possible I just think we live happy lives an maybe sex doesn't need to b a part of it and destroying my urges for her for us is something I'm willing to do I hope that cutting my **** off isent the only answer

My husband and I have this problem, and its one of the things that almost split us up for good.

You have GOT to find a way to meet in the middle. You cut back a little, she has sex a little more. Meet in the middle and compromise.

I would suggest seeing a marriage Councillor or sex therapist, both of whom can help a LOT with this.

I have only been with her for 3 and a half years and I feel it more so now then I have a year back is conceling a real problume solver before that is there nothing I can do until then

Don't give the 'oh its only been so long'

I have been married for 5 years. We were together fr 2 and a half years, then separated for 2 years.

It doesn't matter how long, or how short, or how much you feel it, or how much you think it's a huge problem.

If you DO NOT do something about it, you will lose her and the relationship. That is your choice.

Intheshadows, do you look for her to satisfy all your sexual needs or do you take care of some of your needs by masturbating?

Losing her is not an issue sometimes I feel I'm much for her and maybe she would be better off with out me that it may be my falt but it's not me that refuses conceling and I've been doing nothing but masterbate it's my only option right now I can't force her to sleep with me

I hate to say this but you sound selfish. It sounds like you think she isn't good enough for her. And you are 'too much of a man' for her.

So maybe you are right. She might be better off without you.

So force a brake up on her because she can't give me what I want and I can't give her what she wants

If you cannot make each other happy, why should you stay together?